Why do women make poor choices?

I know this questions gets asked a lot, but I'm asking it again anyway. Why do women make poor choices in guys? Virtually every girl I've known has dated more than a couple of "bad boys," and they all ask the same question at one point: where are all the good guys. Now I understand that some guys are good at hiding who they truly are, but when a majority of women do the same thing over and over, logically you start wondering who's really at fault here.

Another thing I can't understand is when women reach their 30s (typically), after being married and divorced (possibly), with a kid or more (again possibly) and having lost their youthful appearance (stress from past relationships, having to raise kid(s) alone, etc.), why, then, do they finally search for the good guys; the type of guys who actually care about them and are LTR material? It seems like all the hard work guys put into themselves (staying in shape, financially stable) is in vain when women like this want them to settle so quickly. And the best part is men who say no to these women and go for their younger counterparts are looked at like creeps. Seems most women don't make logical choices in this department until it's too late.

Another thing I love (sarcasm) about women is when we call them out on their poor choices or bad behavior, instead of giving us a reasonable explanation of their choices, they disrespect us by calling us names, saying we're a bunch of whiners and telling us to grow a pair. I'd like an explanation on that as well!

I guess I should've put a disclaimer that said: ATTENTION ALL FEMALES. I AM NOT BITCHING, JUST SEEKING A COMPELLING DEBATE ON MY QUESTION. But if I did, I'd be catching flack for singling out females in the disclaimer. Seems you can't ask a question anymore without someone bringing out the stereotype card. Sad...


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  • Oh, cry me a river. Men make the same sh*tty choices, theyre just not judged the same. One of my friends even admitted this to me, saying he always whines when a girl prefers a certain type of guy that he deems "less than" but then he turns around and always "picks the wrong type of girl." it seems like a two way street, but men seem to be less honest about it, in my experience.

    women are human beings just like men. we all make sh*tty choices for the same variety of reasons, it doesn't change based on sex.

    and who is at fault? you're blaming women for doing the same things that men do? O.o

    okay 1. I love the sexist stereotypical picture youve painted of women in their 30s vs men being in shape and financially stable lmao that's really funny.

    and 2. you're not very logical yourself if you don't understand why after experiencing what is perceived to be negative, people look for something opposite...if a kid burns their hand on the stove badly, its not likely that they will do it again. or at some point you come to realize that the decisions youve made aren't what you want anymore, wouldn't you logically choose to go in a different direction? what DONT you understand about that?

    ah, I see. lets just call this what it is - you want younger women. period. be honest, I hate when men bullsh*t to try to make their actions seem any more logical than they are. same honest guy I mentioned above admitted the same thing. he had some wealthy, apparently gorgeous woman in her 30s totally on his nut sack, wanted his kids, they watched football together, and everything. he was in the same age group and said he didn't want to date her because she was exactly one or 2 years older and how he thinks he just wants a younger woman because of physical attraction. even though other men thought this woman was gorgeous and she had wealthier men and models coming after her. he wasn't employed either, he was living on government assistance from his military service. at least he was honest though.

    its so funny when people think theyre being logical, but really aren't and just use that word to boost their emotional expression of frustration. considering the fact that people are getting married much later and more and more women aren't having children until their 30s, there's not much logic to your argument. you seem to be illogically basing your argument on, again, a sexist, stereotypical picture of women. that, and there's probably a class element here and sex bias. I don't think women in their 30s are less attractive at all, but if you're looking for someone who looks 19, that's probably your issue. why try to apply the label of logic where there is none. finding women who have not been married and don't have children in their 30s is really not hard these days. More people on both sides take better care of themselves as they age these days as well. But if you want someone who looks fresh out of high school or college, that's probably what it comes down to, more often than not.

    • and its more honest to talk about why men like younger women. there's a manipulation factor, an ego boost that comes with it especially once you hit the late 20s/early 30s mark, an attraction to naivety and the belief in the idea of "no baggage" or "a better attitude", or liking a certain ego-boosting personality or attitude that comes with some girls at a younger age for older men. That's being honest. But if we're just bullsh*tting, then sure, its because most women make bad decisions. sure.

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    • women and men don't make too many different decisions. two people get married, two people get divorced, two people have children. it doesn't make sense, to me, to point the finger at women and make this a womens issue and talk about who is to blame "who is at fault" if both are doing the same thing. what part of that don't you understand? I can't answer that question. I don't believe women make especially different decisions than men do. They are just judged differently for those decisions.

    • But its okay. No offense, but I'm not getting the sense that you are the type of person who can easily comprehend the point I'm trying to make, much less agree with it. Different types of people. Carry on.

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What Girls Said 5

  • Girls like bad boys because they want something to tame. The idea of turning a bad guy "good" is irresistible to most women because it shows their own values projected onto another person and turning the bad guy good would make them "indebted" in a way so they'd have to love you, etc. Women are strange and yes I say this being one. Some women call good guys boring just because they don't present a challenge emotionally. by the way, don't call women out on their bad choices, that's immediately going to get you 10 steps backwards. How would you like it if women started harping on you for your sh*t?Just because you can provide a reasonable answer and they don't doesn't make it right. Just be the good guy that you are and the right women will notice you, I promise. Just put yourself out there and it should be even better for you cause you're better than the a**hole guys. So stop bitching and get to work, you're a good guy, you just need to find the right woman.

    • I'm sure you mean well, but the problem is much bigger than one man needing to find the right woman! The woman in the attached video link explains it all beautifully! SHE TELLS THE TRUTH!


    • vast majority of the time girls don't even get to tame these guys though. So it ended up being a waste of time, they finally settle for the good guy, and the good guy is thinking "what has she been doing all this time while I was all alone waiting?". "How many guys been in and out of her while I've been waiting?". "Why did she give her prime years to these time wasting low life douche bags and made me wait all this time? Are they her first pick and am I the last she'd ever be with, and now she's down to her last?". I'm sure after thinking this he's not gonna wanna run and put a ring on it right away... not unless he's a sucker.

  • Bad boys make our ovaries do back flips. But men make bad choices also. I saw a guy recently do the stupidest thing ruled by his little head. He is paying for it at the moment dearly. It is interesting seeing how he will get out of the hole he has dug himself into. I am just sitting back and watching it all unfold. It is amusing me. Silly boy/man.

  • Well if that's the case then I'm most definitely not the norm

  • Because they're humans and humans make bad decisions from time to time.

  • Grow a pair. Males do the same dumb sh*t. You go for the good looking trouble making bad girl. It's just guys aren't going "where's all the good girls" afterward. And not to mention you call girls sluts if you rejected.

    • What you think it's manly, testosterogenic if we don't call bullshit out on females? Oh yeah, let's be men and get run all over and get called pansies for THAT reason instead. Yeah makes a lot of damn sense. I've NEVER EVER rejected an attractive girl who was good to me. Unattractive ones, yes. I don't call girls sluts when I'm rejected. I call them bitches. This is why: It's one thing if you've got a good reason why you're rejecting a guy, but no good reason at all? Just because, you want to turn down a good guy, the type you would need to marry since he's honest, hardworking, sincere, kind, thoughtful, generous, would make a great father, educated, would cook for you, etc? And then the girl would explicitly say that she DOES want to marry one day. So why does she waste her time with a douche who lies, cheats, and would never marry her? Sounds like she's sadistic and self destructive. Whatever you do, have a good fucking reason.

    • Like how women call men gay if their rejected. Because where ass men just insult women when rejected women have to also drag sexuality into it cause why not create a more negative connotation of homosexuality.

What Guys Said 4

  • Because women are driven by their feelings compared to guys who thinks logically... many realized afterward but most don't ..

  • Because most of them choose guys with the emotional side of their brain, instead of the logical side.

  • No what the question asker said is certainly true! Girls don't start making good decisions with guys until they're less desirable (namely older, fatter, more wrinkles, more kids, more gray hairs, etc.). It's b/c they cannot pull the guys they used to so now they settle for what they can get (i. e., the nice guys). "nice guys" are put in an undesirable category themselves as I've insinuated, but they're respected as undesirable for the wrong damn reasons: they're boring, they're out of style, they're still in school and don't have much money now (although they'll be doctors/lawyers in a few years), their clothes don't match, some dumb shit like that.

    • But when these girls get older and less desirable, "less desirable" usually pertains to them lacking in the physical department which is very important considering that sex is the main reason why we date: otherwise let's just be friends right? Thus it is TOTALLY understandable to turn someone down for looks or the lack thereof. But turning someone down for not having money for your gold digging ass, not having a shirt that matches your pants, or not being into drugs and alcohol, thus they consider you lame? QUITE juvenile and immature if you ask me.

  • Women are certainly FAMOUS for making bad choices in men especially when they are younger! In fact, many women seem to go out of their way to get with the WORST MEN THEY CAN FIND! On this, there's no equality! Women are UNIQUE that way!

    The whole bad boy-jerk appeal thing exposes part of women's bad choice problems. It appears to be a matter of instinct/emotion over good sense! Women are strongly attracted to signs of strength! Thus, the loud, pushy, insensitive arrogance of bad boy-jerks, drug dealers, thugs, gangsters and sundry criminals triggers female mating attraction instincts. As a result, we constantly see women flocking to the scum of society.

    Google "Dark Triad Personalities" (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy) and you'll find a ton of material on how women are attracted to evil personality traits. The "Dark Triad" evil personality traits constantly turn up in the bad boys, jerks and assholes that are popular with women. This pretty much explains why so many women make poor choices in men. They see what they perceive as male strength and can't help but find it manly and attractive. VIOLENCE IS SEXY TO WOMEN! To an extent, some men are attractive BECAUSE they are abusive! Not in spite of it!

    There are also many women who actually look to PRISON INMATES for love interest! Many prisons receive a huge volume of love letters for inmates. There's a website called "prisontalk. com" that links communications between nearly half a million members. Some prison wives met their incarcerated husbands on the PrisonTalk network. The network includes sections devoted to love correspondence and prison weddings! We're talking about women INTENTIONALLY CHOOSING SERIOUS CONVICTED CRIMINALS FOR LOVE AND MARRIAGE!