Why do men suck up to pretty girls?

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Men are always flocking to pretty girls, & trying to get their attention, while they pretend other women don't exist.  Men also respond to women on this site who are pretty vastly more than other women.  They are obviously obsessed with looks, & it's kind of sad.  You can try to deny it, but I've seen the way men respond to pretty women on this site vs other women, & it's obvious men pay a lot of attention to women who are beautiful.  I understand in person why a guy might do this, as he actually stands a chance, but why chase after a girl on line?  There is no chance you are going to get her, so why send her friend request, messages, & post things on their wall?  I mean, it's kind of sad...  What do you have to say about this guys?  And if your going to deny it, just don't bother answering.  I don't buy into the cheap lies people tell to make themselves seem like better people, I want the actual truth, no bologna!

chopper1977 · Accepted Answer

My problem with men... husbands, boyfriends, expect to have a naturally attractive mate at home, as they ogle and take in all and anything else that strikes their attention. It's immature sure, but how in the hell am I supposed to feel sexy, when I know for a fact that you (he was) staring up and down a 23 year old in running tights at the grocery store? Or that he was jerking off to 'nude russians' AKA barely legal big tittied skinny girls. Sorry, but I don't feel sexy knowing that. He wonders why I don't want sex with him anymore and it's because I can't orgasm anymore with him (don't feel sexy). Also, I'm plenty in shape, run, work out, about 5 lbs over what I was in my early 20's, but without surgery and a time machine, I can't compete with those young girls or surgically enhanced models. To be honest, I'm really not happy because of it. He has let himself go. Funny, men are so obsessed with the looks on women, some men even commenting that they would leave their wife and kids for just one night with so and so, but they tend to do nothing to maintain their looks as they get older.

sweetnsassy23 · Accepted Answer

Ok I didn't read all that but basically that's not always true. Just cause girls are pretty doesn't mean they get their asses kissed all the time and if they do it doesn't make it right. Think about it would you really want guys kissing your ass all the time just causee your pretty and wondering if their genuine or just trying to sleep with you? I've had this problem ( not saying I'm drop dead goregous ) but I do get quite a few compliments on my looks but despite that I remain humble and value honesty and integrity which in turn turns off a lot of guys because they think your either stuck up or "boring". So being pretty and getting your ass kissed isn't always fun if your trying to find someone decent. Also most guys will caste out looks if they find you annoying...I've had guy friends go for "ugly chicks" because to them they were less of a hassle.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why do girls always fall for the hot, bad boy and player types?

We're all shallow and obviously an attractive person, even online, is going to catch your attention more than a plain Jane or John. It's just a fact of life.

I do find it funny when dudes constantly message girls, even who don't have pictures up, asking for cybersex, sexting pics, etc. on this site. Thankfully I haven't received any since becoming a moderator.

And not that I'm a "pretty girl", but being attractive (it's debatable) has its drawbacks too. You never know who is actually genuine, and 99.9% of the time guys are only after you for sex because that's all they see you as, an object.

Asailum · Accepted Answer

Well first off, the guys that suck up more to the pretty girls are almost always the guys that don't get any chicks whatsoever. See once you've dated one of those super hotties you realize looks isn't everything because after youve spent time with different girls you start to care more about how she makes you feel than JUST her looks. And that also opens up your eyes to seeing all girls as prettier in their own ways. I dated this girl who was very hot but I ended up liking her best friend a lot more than her because she was so much funner to be with and she was also cute in her own way.

So anyways, guys who are "good" with girls(that doesn't mean sleeping with a lot either) don't care so much about the superficial looks after theyve had some experience. See those shallow guys have never talked to ANY girls on a deep level, so they are fooled by her outer appearance very easily. Guys who've talked to lots of girls know that it takes a while to find out who your dealing with after a lot of deep conversations..

Hope that helps

Warren · Accepted Answer

If we suck up to them, maybe they'll suck on us. Online, from what I've seen people value the opinion of an attractive person more than that of an unattractive person. If a cute girl is hit on by an ugly guy, she'll be offended. OFFENDED! Think about it. There is nothing intrinsically inferior about the ugly guy's attraction for her (even if his features are inferior), yet they think his opinion is somehow tainted by his horrifying visage. Likewise, if a guy is called "cute" by an ugly fat chick he won't take it personally, but the same comment from a hot girl will make his month. Men may well seek out attractive women online for a confidence boost. If she likes him online, maybe he has a chance with a woman like her out in the real world.

rainbowmind · Answer

wow, calm yourself down, but do you actually mean by pretty girls,  every single woman are beautiful, the guys that running after those" prettygirls" are huge assholes, because believe or not the real men will not be behaving like that. you are literary just shutting people freedoom of speech with that concerning question, you are saying do not say that and that., then why ask a q2 question if we can have the freedom to give an answer from personal experiences. you know they are still good people out there and I have worked hard to consider myself one. this is not cheap lie to make myself seem better, in your mind that is how the real world works?...wrong you need to change that opinion, honey.

peace-love-couture · Answer

Same reason girls suck up to the good looking guys.

But I do want to add, A LOT of the girls on this site aren't even using their own pictures, they are pics of site models, I mean, I could easily call them out, but I won't. And the ones messaging them for cyber sex are creepy... I don't even have my pic up but I get quite a few perverted messages and when I had a Yahoo Answers Account, I had my pic up & guys would always message me.

Anonymous · Answer

Nature made it that way. They just guess they'd get healthier babies from "prettier" women! It's subconscious. I don't think men even realize that they act this way, leave alone WHY! I prefer average woman; they're less swollen headed (though sometimes they can be standoffish in a different way too!)

PS: The flip side is that women like rich, powerful men. Why? Just because nature planted the belief in them that such men could take better care of their children! Even if sex and having children are hardly interlinked anymore these days!

martyfellow · Answer

Well, speak for yourself, I'm not any to flock to the popular 'pretty girls.'   The unpopular but still pretty girls usually have better sense and I tend to flock over in their direction.    They wear less meakeup so people tend not to notice them so much, either.

JohnGPL · Answer

Do you honestly believe that girls don't do exactly the same thing with attractive guys?

sarah_marie · Answer

It's an ego boost; and therefore...more about affirming themselves and their status than it is actually about the girls at all really. Beauty is a concept that is relative. My opinion is that most guys want beautiful women as commodities to show off and boost their social status. For example, if there were only one man and woman left on earth, "beauty" or "prettiness" wouldn't really exist-- there would just be a man and a woman. Beauty is a concept which really only exists in a social setting, therefore when men suck up to pretty girls it is about puffing themselves up and boosting their status and ego.

Anonymous · Answer

I only suck up to the cute ones. The hot women are stuck up and treat average and below average looking guys like crap so I'm never nice to them. And actually,there is a chance a guy on here could get with a woman on this site but its only if they live near each other or if one of them is going to the area where the other person lives for vacation.

Anonymous · Answer

Mmmm... I am a pretty girl (woman, as I am definitely not young). It's difficult to watch. Guys display how shallow they are - they take anything I dish out - and I know their objective is to get me into bed. Only because they behave so 'groupie-ish' around me, I lose respect for them, so they never get what they want, and I get bitchier.
I guess bad boys don't suck up as much, but I see they're trouble as well.

EddyMetal · Answer

"but why chase after a girl on line? There is no chance you are going to get her" That's mean! Don't discourage me! >:(

jimmymac321 · Answer

men like good looking women. men are shallow and superficial and are attracted to what they see. men ultimately want to have sex with the visually most attractive women. so some men will do anything to try and fulfill this desire

Anonymous · Answer

Oh please! Come off it. First off, no one is going to deny giving more attention to pretty girls. EVERYONE is more attentive toward sexually desirable people. Do you think women are nicer to tall guys or short guys? To hot guys or dull, dumpy guys?

So what's the problem? There's absolutely nothing "wrong" with liking hot girls. In fact, there's something wrong with a guy who doesn't.

spice9978 · Answer

I totally agree with you hun. I could probably list some very nasty names summing up what I think of those guys, but I wont. Its a waste of my energy hating guys who will never change. They can all go f*** off :)

Anonymous · Answer

The hot, bad boy and player types want to be seen with the hottest girls.
But when the light is out in the night, nobody really feels the difference between between a pretty, a hot or a plain girl or a black or a white girl.
But , talking with her, one quickly learns the difference between a dumb biatch and an intelligent , nice girl.

DanteThomas · Answer

we're thoughtful and sensitive too. we have standards just like women do.

dx021 · Answer

yea its kind of lame. a lot of tools will try and shower a hot girl with warm and fuzzies just because she's hot, w/o knowing anything more about her

cyrus7 · Answer

ok so what if "hot women" get bombarded? are you jealous? how does it effect YOU?

Anonymous · Answer

that's how nature is. men are attracted to beauty. if you want men to notice you step your game up and you might get some attention too

Anonymous · Answer

have you noticed the pretty ones, tend NOT to go anon. theyre looking for attention. I simply don't give it to them

cyrus7 · Answer

girls are equally as shallow, come on..

dudeman · Answer

i don't suck up to any girl, only young guys do that from what I've seen

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