How do I become approachable when my striking friend gets all the attention?

[Anonymous]

I’m 16 and very extroverted and social. Id consider myself to be pretty usually and I’m called pretty when I’m out on my own (never by guys my age though and I’m never approached). I’m not the kind of pretty guys ask out, I’m just social enough I’ve become well known.

I’m always completely overshadowed when I go out with one of my closest friends. She’s more introverted but unlike me she has a very striking unique kind of beauty, I don’t think we’re ever gone out without her being complimented a handful of times. She also has a very unique fashion sense so despite not being super talkative she draws everyone in.

I’m always very happy for her but I still feel a bit sad knowing the guys I find attractive always end up approaching her. It’s even worse when guys who originally liked me or guys I’m talking to (getting to know where we’re both mutually interested) completely change their tune after seeing her. She’s basically the ideal type of all the guys I’m into so even if I get to them first, I’m still not safe.

What can I do to be more pretty in my own right so we both get attention or seem more approachable?

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Just to be clear I go everywhere with her and I don’t really go out with anyone else. My other friends aren’t close like we are and they don’t like going places often.

[pink_blah]

Dont try to copy her, don’t compare yourself to her, and dont ruin your friendship over this. Maybe you just need try to find things that suit you. Like maybe your need a haircut that frames your face? Or clothes that fit your body type? Or to find your color (which color looks best on your skin tone)? This is kinda contradicting, but you shouldn’t change yourself to gain compliments, but maybe you could enhance your features. Overall Beauty is subject in most cases, meaning that, one guy could think you were ugly whereas another guy could think you were gorgeous yk?

[Asker]

I have my own style I really love but I guess I have found myself unconsciously drifted to dressing more like her. Maybe I need to get my nails done more frequently and change up my makeup a bit. I almost feel I’m at my peak of how cute I can get, so I’m not sure what else to do at this point :( hopefully the right person will see me and find me pretty like people like people see her. I’d never want to let this get between us , I love her more than anything.

[Avicenna]

You're focused on the wrong thing. Use your outgoing nature to nudge the guys into getting your number/social media and then going out with them on dates.

[Asker]

I’m not quite sure how to do that though, could you explain?

[Avicenna]

Keep their attention with a great convo, then ask them out on a date at the end of the convo if you like them.

[Adogdog]

I think many guys will like you the way you are.

[Asker]

Clearly not, I never get noticed.

[Adogdog]

That happens to me sometimes lol

[In_Trance]

Be yourself and the right person will notice you

[Asker]

Hopefully, maybe if I keep going out someone will see me :)

[Iron_Man]

Your young yet stay focused on school