What are the signs a guy is secretly married?

[Anonymous]

You meet a boy and he is like a secret box.

What do you think? How do you treat him?

[Marshast]

I have not dated anyone who is married. But here are the ones I noticed when they are lying through their teeth.

1. They can talk to you daytime/during work hours or just before they arrive home.
2. Not available during the weekends.
3. They are the only ones that can call you, and you can’t reach them.
4. They travel often, and you barely communicate during that time.
5. You do not know any of his close friends or even a family member.
6. Friends setting up the meetings and communication.
7. Can’t answer certain phone calls in around you.
8. When you are his priority, you will know There is no second guessing. If you’re not his priority aside from himself, he is the type to drop you in a heartbeat as he receives an important phone call.
9. Inconsistency.
10. If it looks odd to you, just call it out.

[Marshast]

12. With you he is a home-buddy, he likes quality time. He doesn’t bring you out to diner or anywhere public with him.
13. When he travels and he is not with the family that’s the only time you spend quality with each other. Or maybe he brings you with him on his business trips, but you never once get invited to his house.
14. The business trips might as well be the second family sometimes.

[nastyb]

so accurate. how do you know all of this? have you ever been with a married man?

[HollyK21]

What makes you think he’s keeping her a secret? Is it because he isn’t performing the behavior that you believe a married or taken person should perform? Because to me, that’s very subjective. In my relationship neither of us care to broadcast or relationship, we are PRIVATE, not secretive, when it comes to sharing with coworkers because our lives aren’t heir business. I go to work and hardly share a single thing about my life even to the people I consider moderately close. Everyone is different.

[ArrowheadSW]

I knew a lady who was dating a guy who was a lawyer in a multi-lawyer practice. She had got a traffic ticket and he told her to drop it off at his office and he would defend her case. She went there and told the receptionist that she was there to see him. She got on the intercom and said, "Your lovely wife is here to see you"... When he came out she was furious and told him, "You never said that you were married", etc. She threw the ticket at him and told him to fix it and stormed out. I was always a bit confused at that. How did she know that the receptionist was right and that he was married? Maybe he wasn't married and the receptionist got it wrong? However, he never called her to resolve the issue, so he must have been married. Interesting story.

[nastyb]

those "lawyers" are almost always married. highly successful people are very rarely ever single unless there is something severely wrong with them

[ArrowheadSW]

@nastyb I never asked her any followup questions about that. I wonder if he argued her case on the traffic ticket and got it cleared.

[exitseven]

You never go to his house and he gives you a phone number that is from a burner phone.

[Asker]

Interesting. I haven't thought that !

[DishLady]

"A secret box"? He's gay or he's just not interested in you.

He's married or committed = He's flirting with you but can never make plans with you; everything is an accidental run-in as if you're meeting for the first time. He's got a tan line on the finger where his ring should be. He'll buy you presents but not anything he wants to brag about. He'll take you to places he won't run into anyone he knows. He hails a taxi rather than getting you an uber/lyft...

[AviatorTom]

He's wearing a wedding ring, or he surreptitiously removes it when you meet... That's a good clue.

[Nikki1989]

They spend a lot of time at keeping two distinct lives from colliding. He becomes completely unreachable at specific, predictable times—most notably on evenings, weekends, or major holidays. He usually calls you while driving to or from work, running errands, or stepping outside, but almost never when he is relaxing at home. There are other signs, but these are the more obvious ones.

[Kvass]

Based on my friend's experience, always being busy on weekends. Always a new disaster happens to him every single weekend, his pet dies, his grandma falls down the stairs etc always excuses

[Asker]

I know it is an excuse. He probably makes up.

[Anonymous]

In modern society, it feels almost impossible to achieve such a feet. My grandfather's side of the family had such an ordeal. His dad had one family in Nebraska and another in Pennsylvania. My family uncovered this recently. I would always search someone if I dated them. It feels impossible to hide unless his other partner is aware of the ruse.

[Screenwriter]

You can only call him at weird hours: very early or very late. You can't come to his house. You can never be with him during holidays.. I think those are pretty telltale.

[Chris009800]

He always has a woman with him and he introduces her as his friend.

They're both in on the secret.

[Asker]

I follow you

[Asker]

Follow me. I agree with you

[Chris009800]

If I follow you back are you going to try to message me without having a profile picture?

[blackeagle007]

Pink Anon, watch out, Chris maybe married

[bowenw]

There are times he is not available to be with you and has poor excuses for why.
He won't invite you to his home. He won't let you follow him on social media.

[JazzieJanna]

Leave married people alone.
And that married person should have the balls to say that I am married

[fonduegirl]

Wedding ring on the finger. Constant calls. Tons of excuses. Tells you she is crazy when called out about status instead of proudly owing up to it. can't stay overnight

[Anonymous]

Like the guy who won't give you his contact information in the other question?

[rgb008]

look his name up with "marriage records" next to it with his location, preferably the county he lives in.

[Alex-Snow]

How well do you know him and how old is he? Does he have any lack of a suntan where his ring finger is? Or you can just ask him.

[Anonymous]

I unfortunately can't describe this, but they act differently, once you know how a married man acts, it's pretty easy to notice these little signs. They also act more like "dads" if they have kids...

[LiamJHayden]

1. Not available on weekends.
2. A lighter area of skin on his ring finger that suggests he has one.

[888theGreat]

If you know his legal name, you do a search for marriage licenses. of course he could still be shacking up with someone.

[crazyengineer]

He will not give you his social media details.
He will not invite you to his home
He will call you only at certain times when he’s not with his wife
And many others….

[Paige2006]

Untanned line around his ring finger but no ring

[Kingofkings1992]

Secretly married? How on earth would someone hide being married? This isn't the movies- it's real life

[Abbycado]

Not much of a secret if you can tell.

[slatyb]

If he's like a secret box, he's not single.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 stupid is as stupid does.

[MrChinaski]

You could just ask him...

[scott04sa22]

He's always gone on his "business trips"

[robocop666]

you hire a PI for this

[Athena1998_]

Have you met any of his friends or family?

[Jmmmfi4]

He has a wife

[Anonymous]

He looks empty, broken, and poor.

[Hulk30]

that's it

[wkhan_87]

No sign actually