Signs he is secretly married?

[Anonymous]

I feel like he may be married but he keeps insisting he isn't. He doesn't let me come over and says it's because his kids but his behavior is just odd. I need a guys perspective and opinions on signs to look out for

[Anonymous]

It's a combination of a lot of things , for example , after dating for a while , his friends and family still don't know you , he is always busy on weekends , he keeps getting message when he is with you

But even so it could mean he doesn't treat you as a priority , cannot guarantee he is secretly married or something

[Asker]

So I should give it more time? Any early signs to look for? I just have a weird gut feeling

[Opinion Owner]

No if you feel like you aren't a priority or feel being mistreated, you should tell him how his certain behaviours make you feel. U shouldn't accept being treated like a side chick even if he is not married

[JustJen]

Depending on what country you are in, you could check public records. You will find out if he is married or not, or if some other adult lives at his address.

[Asker]

He says he is currently in the divorce process but it hasn't been finalized yet

[JustJen]

For how long has he been saying this? In some countries, filed divorce documents are public records can can be requested.

[Asker]

How can I access that?

[JustJen]

If you´re in a country where those are public, you will have to write to the court in question and require a copy. You may have to pay postage and copy fee.

[spartan55]

You are onto a big one already... him not letting you come over. His kids should perhaps be with his ex sometimes, so you could visit then. Go with your gut.

[Asker]

Should I give it a few more weeks to see? I don't know what to do

[spartan55]

How many times have you asked to see his place?

[Asker]

Just once and he said no because of them. And then said dont worry you can come over one day. Lol that was weird

[spartan55]

Yeah, my bullshit meter would be on high alert. Who is watching his kids when he is with you then?

[Asker]

It is lol and he says he has a babysitter

[spartan55]

Really? What time of day do you typically see him? Weekdays? Weekends? This shouldn't be hard to figure out.

[Asker]

Like daytime usually or afternoon and mostly weekends but only for a few hours

[spartan55]

Ask him when/if his ex ever gets the kids and what their custody agreement is.

[Asker]

He says he mostly has them

[spartan55]

That's vague, get specifics.

[spartan55]

You would make a terrible detective by the way lol...

[Asker]

Lol fuck you

[spartan55]

I will be your coach all the way through this... I will bet he is living with a SO

[zozo7880]

His face book, his ring, You might be able to look it up or use one of those background check sites.

[Asker]

He doesn't wear a ring and says he doesn't have social media :/

[zozo7880]

you can find out if he has a social media with his name and city and a little time looking through profiles.

[Asker]

I tried and couldnt find anything

[alvincasey]

It's pretty common to not expose your children to everyone you date

[Asker]

Obviously

[someginger]

Check if there is a ring line on he's hand

[bill_towers]

If you don't respect his privacy then leave him. Maybe He doesn't want to introduce you to His children yet, who knows. If he doesn't want to share Details, then it's his Business, Not yours.

[Asker]

Yeah but in a relationship with somebody? That's very immature and concerning

[Asker]

I dont need to see his kids I just want to know if he's married