How do you NOT lead someone on?

[SuckerPunch]

How do you make sure you aren't leading someone on but still be friendly to them?

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What if you have already said you're just looking for friends? How do you make sure you still don't lead someone on after that?

[Samanosuke47]

You basically just got to make sure they don't like you. If they like you even a little bit, you should probably stop communicating with said person for awhile. And make sure you state that you do not like said person. Don't mention lets just be friends, cause that will give said person hope that maybe something will happen down the road, therefore he/she won't give up liking you.

Other than that drastic step. Until you know if the person likes you or not.. I don't really think there is a way to know when your leading he/she on a bit. It just happens sometimes. It's kinda unavoidable. Only things you can do is to cut all communication when you do find out he/she likes you. Making sure you tell them that you don't like them before you cut the communication. And it doesn't have to be forever.

I've been lead on many a times. I wish instead of them trying to continue being my friend, they'd just leave me alone.. at least for awhile.

[drummerdude25]

Just tell them the truth and don't flirt or act like you like them when you really don't... Be straight-foward. It doesn't make you a mean person, or mean you're a jerk if you don't feel the same way... They might be a little hurt, but that's life, it's apart of liking someone (if they don't feel the same). You can be nice about a rejection, just don't be too nice about it, if that makes sense...

Give them a FULL sense of closure.

Don't sugar-coat the truth or lie tho, that's an awful thing to do, as nice as it may seem in the immediate context, it can really make someone feel absolutely terrible later on and leave them hopelessly in love and hope for you. Not a fun feeling...

[melxrichie]

when they try to flirt. shut it down. maybe answer in a question like way. like thank you ? and if they ask you out, tell them , damn I only see you as a friend. but don't even let the flirting happen. if he reaches for your hand, ask him what is he doing? and if he says trying to hold your hand maybe say, I don't think of you like that.

[SuckerPunch]

that seems really harsh though

[1biglow]

That might seem harsh but if you don't want to lead anybody on that is exactly what you should do. It is better for the other person and you to not complicate things with false hope and people doing things because they feel sorry for the other person.

[toulouse]

I don't worry about it, people don't have to assume you like them if they do its their deal. if someone misunderstands I correct them that's all, but I wait for them to tell me,I don't just offer it that's rude,

[MissUhLexUh]

Just be straight forward. Tell that person you really enjoy being friends and that you aren't looking for anything more than that.

[antics333]

Good question.

Like when a buddy of mine introduces me to his girlfriend, then leaves us alone because he trusts me (hah, hah, big mistakes) then we start talking into something we both like she will not make much eye contact with me, or prolong contact, nor will she lean into me. She'll resemble just another guy during a conversation. Body language.

[greese]

I agree with you, there will always be the opportunity to have a intimate relationship. From a evolutionary perspective, I believe that everyone uses each other to maximize there quality of life and reproduction.

I takes discipline not to make out with your "friend".

[AdamBH]

Well just see why you aren't interested. If you have a boyfriend, say it. If the guy is simply not your type, then talk about how you'd love a guy who is like the exact opposite of him. If you are not looking, say it.

[toulouse]

that'd be really awkward lol most of my friends are guys,

[Anonymous]

Basically from a guys prospective just don't give too much away at one go. He will think your interested. So be light with your responses. Body Language is the ultimate key here.

[toulouse]

whats body language that suggests interest?

[Opinion Owner]

maybe just refuse to give him I contact. Also try and give very small answers to her questions. Honey I'm glad you asked that question cos a few weeks ago I was lead on by a girl. it was all great to only realize that she went out with another guy and she said she never liked me :/ xx

[SuckerPunch]

Im sorry :/

Yeah I feel like I'm doing that now. I told this guy I just wanted friends until college which is partially true and I know he just isn't a good influence on me though he's sweet. But now I'm starting to like his coworker and I don't know what to do. do I just not pursue that?

[Opinion Owner]

Well in my opinion just like the person above said just be straight and tell him you want to be friends only. BUT don't wind him up about it otherwise he will get pissed with you and may never talk to you again. (well I'm not talking to that girl cos I felt used :/)

Saying: 'I would rather be hurt by the truth, than protected by a lie.'

I was fuming with that girl. So you don't want that to happen to you do you?

It will make you look like a heartless person but I'm sure your a lovely girl :)

[SuckerPunch]

well I don't know if he still has feelings for me for sure, I think he does but I don't want to brig it you if it isn't necessary it seems awkward

[Opinion Owner]

so basically ask him if he likes you ALONE. Then discuss how you like him only to be friends and nothing more then just give him a hug. Or if you do like him as a good friend maybe a little peck on the cheek.

But just tell him because if you beat round the bush you might give him the wrong idea and he may think your playing hard to get

[emilyzenella]

Don't flirt with people you don't like it's cruel. Simple as that

[Yeahhbro]

be friendly with them adn don't get intimet adn flirty with them

[Anonymous]

by making it clear you're not interested. talk about other guys or something

[Anonymous]

mention another guy