How to not give off an arrogant vibe?

[Anonymous]

I'm extremely aloof and some people mistake that for me being arrogant... Even though I'm super nice and don't start shit with people.

And no, I dont sag my pants and sing rap lyrics in the hallways.

how do I stop giving off that vibe tho?

[SilverRaven]

Tone down your cool-dude crap. You may be an undramatic nice guy, but being cool doesn't actually mean what most people think it does.

1. Be nice; You've got that part down. Good job.
2. Don't get angry at anything, no matter who does it, even the people you hate. As they say, "Kill your enemies with kindness."
3. Open doors for people and greet them a lot, or as much as you can. Do this to the girls, mostly.
4. Make it seem like nothing bothers you. Take everything in and just go with it.

These are a lot of things i've been doing for a long time. For as long as I can remember, anyway. You might be able to add some things to that, but do not. I repeat, do not continue being a, "Cool dude." Just be a normal guy who's nicer than most and surprise everyone by how nice and easygoing you are.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Don't think you understand what he said already

[SilverRaven]

Don't think you understand what I said already.

[Asker]

What?

[Anonymous]

fuck i can't help you, im just like you thats why girls never approach me

[Asker]

Dude I just your post about girls checking you out and not approaching. I can honestly say that you are just like me and vice versa.

my problem is that a ton of people say I give off an idgaf attitude, but in reality I'm just shy so I avoid people and come off as cold.

I think girls might find our aloofness mysterious, yet intimidating because we're so distant.

[Opinion Owner]

you should add me as a friend

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, when I was in highschool when I returned to my car there was a rose and a card that said that I was like the rose mysterious, quiet and beautiful. I found that really weird.. I just remembered that

[Always_Honest]

Stop trying to be cool because you will come off as an asshole

[Asker]

From what I said, does it sound like I'm trying to be cool?

[Always_Honest]

No not really but maybe its the way you talk or look.

[love2run13]

I have the same issue... I don't know why

[Asker]

I guess you can't always win.

[love2run13]

Ya but It annoys me when people expect you to smile ALL the time or else they are intimidated by you or think your arrogant or mad, its just the way my face is resting! lol

[Asker]

Exactly. and if it were some ugly person, THEN people would just assume they're shy... Wtf

[Anonymous]

You can't really change your "vibe".