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One attractive girl suddenly took some interest in me. I am thinking why?
I know that I am not that much attractive. So I tend to go for average girls instead.
My experience with girls are not so good. I have hobbies , intelligence but somehow women always exploit my talents for getting there work done. It happened with me multiple times before , even with average girls.
They tend to flirt with me , lead me on for getting helps. I had a problem to say no to people. So got hurt many times before, so only have bad exp in dating , never anything good.
I know girls say that they go for personalities , qualities may be that’s true but I have never seen such at least in my life.

I never had a girlfriend in my life. Sometimes I was busy in academics , sometimes in multiple hobbies. I have tried sometimes but never had any luck. There’s a story I would like to share , read it if you have time
There was a girl , I met in college. We became friends really soon. She told me she found my qualities and me admirable. After two months of meeting she got involved with guy 1 . And one day told me that guy 1 was not her lover instead he forced her into sex and threatened her. Which was actually true. So I defended her , as being a friend. Somehow she stopped talking with me after. I thought she needed time for healing and it’s ok. Then after one month she contacted me again and told me the actual story. She had a guy 2 from tinder for casual sex. Somehow she got attached and the guy left her and she told those to guy 1 and he took an advantage of her vulnerability. Now she was completely devastated and wanted to commit suicide. I took her to doctor. I always had a gentle heart (my biggest weakness ) . I grew up helping people , doing charitable work. So in that time I cooked for her , helped her in studies and somehow I caught up feelings for her. When I told her about them. She told me guys like me are only valuable when women start to search for husband , my talents don’t matter. She knew I never had a girlfriend before. She though me as a loser and many other hurtful things and left. Well she could have just said no I won’t mind.

Actually being single for this long I have accepted that girls don’t like good guys anymore. Said no to casual flings cause I wanted love. Why I always get bad karma 😔, even though I never hunted anyone.

As a guy I can only give an opinion from that perspective, but I know for men some or even some say a majority of women tend to have a bad rap because of them being perceived as low quality or immodest and inappropriate. I can see what they mean sometimes.

On the other hand, I know some women talk about the cliche abusive or jerk guy who has used them. I'm not trivializing here, I understand that hurts too. I feel sorry for you too.

It seems like almost all feminists like to believe most feminists are good, and that a small percentage of bad feminists give the entire group a bad name. It's like so called "feminazis" are a scapegoat that allows feminists to point their finger at someone else and say "they are the bad ones and we are the good ones".

But here's the thing... I have literally never met a feminist who was actually a genuinely good human being who cared equally about the well being of everyone, not just females. Every one of them is a self centered person with a victim complex who willingly would sacrifice the welfare of males for the benefit of females. They are all about division and fostering an us-versus-them mentality, but they hide behind a very biased notion of "equality". Those are not the qualities of a good person.

So my question is this, do these women just honestly not recognize that they are bad people?

I've put in tons of effort for many years and yielded no results, all 22 girls who said yes stood me up. All good girls are either taken, or have too many options that they'd never even consider dating me. I have many good qualities, but I have many limitations that can't be overcome, such as my shortened lifespan, infertility, respiratory problems, 2 hours of treatment per day at specific times is required, and increased risk of lung infections due to a chronic disease I have. That alone takes me out of the picture completely as there will always be several guys with the same good qualities I have and no bad qualities that she'll for sure pick over me. I'm only getting better in every way, but those disadvantages are unchangeable, so I deem it a tremendous waste of time to try. So I've tried to be content with the fact that I won't experience romance and improving my own life, but the recent passing of my dog has left me with nothing to fall back to for support, people also constantly put me down for being single. How do I become fully content with being single?