Believe it or not, having healthy people around you can give you a healthy environment in your life. Being with the right people can give you a lot of benefit in your emotional state, quality time and others. I will state it all here the reason why you should choose the best people to be with:
1. People has the power to influence you
No matter where you go, there are only 2 types of person you are going to hang out:
The Toxic People and the Motivational People.
Being with the toxic people
Toxic people are stressed, good at cursing, manipulators and so much to have all those negative ambiance within that person. We all know that not all people are good at reading minds, so rather, you should stay away with people like this. I think you deserve to be with people who could help you and not put you down. This works 2 way around, there will be people who will approach you to lead , and people who would want you to assist them in their lives.
a. Leading a toxic person
It's not that hard to hold people who needs a hand to lead them. But this is a warning, this people needs some changes asking you to fixed their shits for them. So rather ( They are a big NO! NO!). If you are a strong type of person, that can answer back to shitty people, then it's a yes, you can lead them. But for me, it's easier to stay away. Because, I think our jobs are more stressful enough than to hold people that just adding up stress . Rather than risking your time with people like this, FOCUS on your job. help yourself, you have a lot more things to do rather to fix peoples who don't know how to appreciate and respect you
b. Following a toxic person
This person are your leaders, boss or whatsoever you called them. You are trap to follow them, They have a stressful life, and you are trap to live in a stressful environment too. Not all leaders or boss, are bad. But I believe they are having an issue with their job, or personal life. As a follower you have a job to follow orders from them. And you have no right to complain(unless he/she is making you do something bad) and make "RUMORS" of your leader.
I believe that when we are discourage, we are emotional motivated with anger, disappointments, and all you hear those negativity from your leader gives you those emotion to pass it also to your colleagues. That's not a good idea, because if you do that you have nothing to differed from that person. Its hard to talk to your leaders, as you don't have right to speak about your needs. But I think its a business you have to personally build with your leader. You have to get along with that person, asks for that person trust, so you can open up a communication with that person. I think leading people is a tough job (think about this when you became a leader yourself). But of course it's hard to change this person too, if you just want a job. Apply in a job with healthy environment, because you will spend most of your time in that place and with these peoples. It's going to be your second home. So choose the best people that will fit for you.
If you have encountered those kinds of peoples. I come up with a solution for this.
Build A Boundary
Having a boundary means setting people to learn and see you as a person. A boundary is not a wall that you set people whom to trust with (you might get disappointed, because not all people are into you. You should be open with all people, you don't have to measure trust because you have to share your life with someone for them to see you and understand you too).A boundary is a rule that people needed to follow when they get along with you. Without boundary, people will disrespect you and will not take you seriously. You are a person to be seen and be respected. Those toxic people have no right to say bad things about you. yes "they have no right" to treat you poorly because you don't owe them your life. Stand up for yourself, and show them who you are, you have a boundary that "you can be easy to get along with, but not a joke to play around with".
Set a Good Communication
If you love your job, and these toxic people are just blocking your way, do not make a fire in your place. Even how really pissed you are, don't speak back negatively with these peoples, rather hold on and be in control. The more you show that you are affected or any emotion, gives those toxic people the power to destroy you more. Just remember you can't ever change these peoples because they are used to be like that already. But when they see that you are professional or decent, they will get humiliated onto their selves. They will realize that this is your place and they do not own anything of it. Setting a good communication simply means, you can talk to them face to face in a mature way. They are like children, asking for attention, that needed to be set right.
Being with Inspirational people
They are the best to people to be around with, they are full of drives and motivations that keeps you going. They are the people that brings out the best in you, though its hard to find these peoples. but I'm sure it will be a great hunt. Getting along with these kinds of people are like going in an adventure with them. It won't always be on good terms. but its worth valuable time spending time with them. You'll gonna learn more, grow more, love more, believe more of yourself than you ever imagine. You will feel great. you feel cool around them. Of course, they are not always perfect but they will try everything to stand up again. Although being around them, sometimes, you will feel less around them since they are great people but they believe in something to help you up. They are tough to catch and they are so called home and family. Ever felt that feeling of having a soul sister or that you can call partner, they are like the best version of you. They hold on to that principle that you never had. They are like a gift to everyone to have them around. You feel the best around them, because they bring out the BEST IN YOU.
Sometimes, those people feels like you want to hang around them most of the time, they are different, hard to read, and something about them make them so special, even they are so great, it's hard to be around them also. Since that they have a silent or a private world of not knowing what they are going through. And sometimes they never speak about it to you. You can always see them smile. see them positive but you never truly known what it even means. They have negative side too but don't mind about that, stick to that positive side of that person. You'll never regret having them in your life.
Adapt the High Spirit
These people have that undying fire within them whenever they come along. It's like people move differently under this energy. Sometimes they have mood(not always in good) but you will still find them highly motivational to others. When you have that spirit in you, you are going to change the path of many people. Even you want to make people laugh, people fall in love to you and etc its all in that high spirit. You will earn that power to make a change to be positive. I think its great
Don't stress out life, Have fun!!!
life doesn't always goes favor in you, so have time to relax have fun. Spent your time with people who will share you a nice day. A day to help you build yourself. Be happy. Motivational people, don't live in a gloomy environment, but they always keep themselves happy. They always think positive most of the time.
These peoples might be intimidating sometimes, though it will be a good idea to help each other and give ideas because I believe that we need each other to grow and we will be more powerful to have each other rather than working alone.