Never thought I'd have to remind myself of this pretty basic, and obvious statement but here I am, having recently broke up, reeducation myself.
It's been years since I last found myself in a relationship, where I was constantly correcting my girl, trying to get her to act in a manner in which I thought was best for the health of a relationship. Molding her into my perfect partner. Unintentionally, I was affecting the health of the relationship. It doesn't matter that my intentions were genuine. I was wasting time trying to make something work.
In my previous relationships before this one, I had made it a point to qualify my partner for who they naturally are without giving hint after hint of what I expected in a relationship. I enter into relationships with the purpose of seeing if I can see myself with them for the rest of my life. In this manner, I've been able to quickly end relationships when I see certain deal breakers.
Somehow I suspect with COVID lockdowns, WFH for the last 3 years, etc, I had lost my abundance mindset and that's why I didn't leave much sooner.
As I've expressed my thoughts, I just realized, maybe I should change the title to, be confident, have self worth, and lose the scarcity mindset.
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Exactly, one can't fix something that is not there to begin with !!
This is so true.
Which is why I don't understand those who get mad or negative about people not filling their boxes as to what is attractive.
Like.. just don't date them then.
Get to know the person for who they are. Not what you want them to be.
They're a real person, not the idea of a person you build in your head.
terrific titlee. :)