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Ok so im in a tough situation im in a new relationship with this guy and things are getting a bit serious we been dating a liitle over 9 months and we made it official between us 2 months ago and now i let him move in with me. He has 2 kids from his previous relationship a boy & a girl they come over on the weekends the boy is 5 & the girl is 3 i babysit them when i get off of work for four hours until there dad get off work... i have an ok friendship with their mom i figure she doesn't like me because i can just sense it... but she's respectful and so am i but anyways she told me that they are a handful so if they get out of line to spank them... i laughed it off because at the time she told me that i didn't think they where that bad but nooooow lol they are very much so a handful and i do get the urge to wanna spank them escpecially the 5 year old he calls me racist names like a n****r, blacky pants, & calls me stupid ass, fat ass, im not even fat i guess he's just not use to seeing women with big hips and big butt lol but he ruins my apartment NEVER listens while the 3 year old mocks him but she actually listens if i tell her to stop but i tell her to stop over 50 times! I dont spank them Yet lol i got the ok from their mom but not dad they act like angels around there dad and he loves them so much he will never lay a hand on them yell at them nothing i know he would be tottally against me hitting them i rather just stop watching them so i wouldn't have to spank them but i dont want their dad thinking i dont like them and i do want to help out with his kids he only get them on the weekends i want to oneday be their stepmom but i dont know what to do. He gets really sensitive over his kids i dont want this to ruin our relationship i just want his kids to have respect for me 😩

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I am 20 years old dating a 36 year old guy, (don't judge) .
We've been together almost two years now and never have I ever cheated on him before. Our relationship has been bumpy for a while, we have our ups and downs.
On Saturday I went to a party, where I ran into a guy i have had unsettled feelings for for almost seven years. I drank a lot, and we got to talking and he went for it and kissed me. And I didn't stop him from kissing me. That's all we did I eventually went home, confused at to what I just did and very dissapointed in myself of course.

The next night when the boyfriend got home, I told him of course. And he was fine, he said it's natural and that stuff like that happens.
Might I add that my boyfriend has never believed in just being with one person. But I dont believe in polygamy so we made a deal to obviously just stick to eachother.
That night went on normally, we had sex and what not and it was good we were normal. the next morning went out for breakfast and it was normal.

we got home and things changed, he started saying stuff like now that i have kissed another guy i have opened the doors to an open relationship. which is not true. i did not kiss the guy to be in an open relationship, i made a stupid mistake.
i explained how i didn't want that and he said it was too late. and then we argued for a bit until he said "I either get a freebie or we are over"I explained how i did not do this to hurt him, and if he did that to me it would devastate me. because it would. and he said that no matter how guilty i felt he was still going to do it and it was going to be fun and exciting. knowing that he would hurt me. and nothing could change his mind.

we fought and i couldnt come up with an option so i decided to write him a note saying i didn't want to be with someone who could look me in the eyes and say he was excited to cheat on me.

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