I'm sure we have all heard a guy complain that he bought a girl something or took her to dinner and didn't get laid right? He'll throw out words like "bitch" and "whore" behind her back and yet still try and go out with her again! Don't put yourselves in this position ladies! Some guys out there think they have the right to take whatever they want from you if they have spent money on you. Many men view money as far more important and valuable than women/human beings and think that you OWE them sex after they pay for a date. So don't let them pay!! Especially if it is a first date or you have just started seeing each other, it gives some men the opinion that you owe them something which is not a good position to put yourself in. I am not saying all men think this way or even that most do, but you never know who doesn't and who doesn't so it's better safe than sorry!
Politely decline expensive gifts and dates until your relationship is well established. Keep things simple in the beginning and share the cost. If he brings some flowers or something reasonably inexpensive feel free to accept (for example a rose or small box of chocolate). Don't let him go overboard and don't let him think you can be bought. Let him know you are on a date to spend time with him, not his bank account. And explain that you are not comfortable with extravagant gifts or dates until you are in a relationship. You will have lots of time to spoil each other if you end up in a long-term relationship, for the beginning just keep it casual and fun.
There are also women who go on dates just for free meals which is also shitty and something you should never do either (but this doesn't mean they deserve sexual assault or anything NO ONE deserves that.) If you split the date half way no one feels the other person is indebted to them and no one has leverage over the other / will be able to guilt or push the other into anything as easily. As well nobody feels taken advantage of, remember even if he offered to pay he may feel bitter and angry about it later so try to convince him not to pay as it could cause issues in the future.
Never go on dates just for free meals and gifts, this will never turn into a successful relationship and you are just using people. Show him that you are successful and you can take care of yourself, if you paying for yourself "threatens his masculinity" then you know you can weed him out as an immature guy. The only way you should be letting him pay is if it is expected like say you met on a sugar dating site and you both know that neither of you are looking for a real relationship but rather an "arrangement". For actual first dates avoid expensive places and try to split the bill to keep things on equal ground so that no one gets bitter or expects unreasonable things in return.
Some guys are not buying you gifts to be nice, they are not taking you on fancy dates because they care about you, they are attempting to buy your body. That is the sad truth, no matter how much you value being "old fashioned" it is not always advisable to let the man pay. Women should not be going on dates for free meals or gifts, and men should not be giving gifts and spending money on women with the expectation of getting sex or anything else in return. I recently saw a guy on here comment that "Every time you give a gift you are basically paying for pussy" That is not a real gift then, you give gifts out of kindness with no expectation for anything in return or it isn't really a gift, it's a bribe. When I give my boyfriend a gift I am doing it to make him happy. I give him gifts because I see something that makes me think of him and I just have to get it for him because I care about him. I am not giving him a gift out of expectation to receive anything in return .. except a "thank you" and a smile!
Unless you are giving a gift or treating someone on a fancy date with no expectations and with sincerity don't bother! Nobody wants a gift that comes with a catch or an expectation. It's sneaky and unfair to give a gift that comes with expectations attached to it. This goes for everyone, if you are trying to buy someone's affection or body that is cheap, sneaky, and will almost never work in your favour.