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I just feel I need an opinion. I am completely happy with my boyfriend. He works all week, and I study at university. We've been together for 6 months now.

We used to spend at least one day of the weekend together if not the whole thing. But lately I've noticed there's been a bit of slack there. Like, he won't get ready during the day to do something (but he might if it involves his friends) which means we only get the night together, if that.

He had a whole two week holiday recently and I didn't see him too much during that time. We used to see each other constantly. And even if I do see him after work? He tends to be tired and often falls asleep on me, which just makes me feel rubbish and boring.

And now this weekend, I studied last night and wasn't home til pretty late. So I never saw him because he fell asleep before I even got home. As for today, he lazed around and went to catch up with a friend tonight. Which means I haven't seen him all weekend.

No doubt he'll want to do something tomorrow, but I wanted to study tomorrow. I feel like he'll see me, but usually on his own terms and when it best suits him.

I know it shouldn't annoy me be because he is a great boyfriend otherwise. But sometimes I just feel he's not really raising the bar anymore and making the effort that I know he's capable of.

Im not high maintenance? But I do think that if we're together, we should be priorities in each other's lives. At times, I feel we're not.

So yeah, am I overreacting or should I consider throwing the towel in?

A guy I was seeing told me after 3 months that he doesn't like that I'm high maintenance.. fair enough but would you date a girl who is high maintenance but finances herself and doesn't ask for much but attention sometimes? My career is #1 in my life so I'm not demanding in relationships I just know what I want.
Like I'm not even sure that term should be used for me because I do it all myself. i'm literally just demanding when it comes to myself? He didn't like that I cared so much about my appearance, superficial things and having the best of what I want. Is that really all that bad?

Common knowledge tells us that when we eat more calories than we need, we gain weight; and if we eat less calories than we need, we lose weight. But I wonder what happens if less emphasis is put on the weight or number on the scale and more emphasis is put on the body composition and fat distribution.

Let's take a 250-pound, 6'2'' man. He is the archetypical fat guy, eating too many high-calorie, low-nutrient food products. But one day, he decides, out of the blue, that he just does not want to eat junk food anymore. He wants something new for a change and tries to shop for some cheap, healthy food products at his local supermarkets. He makes sure that his diet is balanced and enough to build muscle through intense resistence-training. Riding a real bicycle can be a form of aerobic, cardiovascular exercise as well as a form of resistence-training (especially if you are trying to ride upslope). To train his upper body strength cheaply, he does bodyweight exercises and educates himself on proper form to avoid injury. His goal is not to lose weight, but to change his body composition, so that he has more muscle than fat, while remaining at the same weight. So, he continues to eat at a calorie surplus, but this time, with good food to supply the growth of muscles. He hopes to remain a big guy, but with more muscles than fat.

Which method do you think works best? Do you think people should eat at a calorie deficit to lose weight, or do you think people should eat at the weight-maintenance level or at a calorie surplus with the intention of changing the body composition especially in regards to building more muscle through weight-lifting, bodyweight exercises, and resistance-training in aerobic exercises?