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I was suspecting my long distance boyfriend having affair with Yannie who he also met online. He told me they are only friends but I was wondering why he cares about the problems in her life. He tried to justify it that he is just compassion person but he rarely cared about mine (emotionally unavailable) and do not even anymore sends gifts even if I do. I also caught him sending a flower to this girl after 3 months of our relationship. And, also sent her family foods two months because he said they are poor. He said he only send it as a friend gify because she was depressed. He insist me to look a job for this and he got mad when I didn't.

I got so mad of the girl to the point I told her that he was stealing my boyfriend and to stay away from my boyfriend. The girl blocked him but then my boyfriend got so mad that I destroyed their friendship. He told me they are just strictly friend and the girl has a girlfriend cuz she is lesbian.

If she is lesbian why does she need to vent to my boyfriend and why my boyfriend cares a lot.

Am I being jealous or my instinct is right they have affair?

We had been dating for 2 years and we live together. We haven’t discussed about what we were comfortable with and what not until now. We were talking about something and this came up.

This all happened before we met. He made out with a hot colleague. They never had sex and it was only because his ex was causing drama. He and his colleague decided to remain only friends. They don’t really work in the same department. They would hang out for lunch all the time. She now has a boyfriend and she knows he’s now with me. We are all working from home so they obviously don’t see. However, every now and then she would message him. In fact, he messaged her few days ago.

I am truly not comfortable with it. Had sex or not, they obviously find each other attractive. They made out and I am not comfortable with it. He doesn’t necessarily agree but he understands my perspective. It was never discussed but I am not comfortable with my partner keeping contact with exes/people you dated in the past. He respects me. He doesn’t care about keeping in contact with her, and he thinks the right to do is to cut her off. He won’t respond to her messages anymore. When they do go back to the office, he will reject her invitation to lunches or drinks after work.

I had no idea of her existence until today. I’m kind of not okay with how he never told me about her earlier. If let’s say they were meeting up alone, and I later found out he has been hanging out with a hot colleague who he made out with?… that would be a big problem. My boyfriend admitted he’s not good at communicating, and not someone who is an open book. You have to dig and ask. He just thought it should be fine. It also doesn’t make feel great.