Am I too jealous or is my instinct right?

[iAskYou18]

I was suspecting my long distance boyfriend having affair with Yannie who he also met online. He told me they are only friends but I was wondering why he cares about the problems in her life. He tried to justify it that he is just compassion person but he rarely cared about mine (emotionally unavailable) and do not even anymore sends gifts even if I do. I also caught him sending a flower to this girl after 3 months of our relationship. And, also sent her family foods two months because he said they are poor. He said he only send it as a friend gify because she was depressed. He insist me to look a job for this and he got mad when I didn't.

I got so mad of the girl to the point I told her that he was stealing my boyfriend and to stay away from my boyfriend. The girl blocked him but then my boyfriend got so mad that I destroyed their friendship. He told me they are just strictly friend and the girl has a girlfriend cuz she is lesbian.

If she is lesbian why does she need to vent to my boyfriend and why my boyfriend cares a lot.

Am I being jealous or my instinct is right they have affair?

You are too jealous

Your instinct is right he has an affair

Updates

+1 y

What bothered me is everytime I madly message this girl he blocks me and calling me evil and vindictive

He also dont want to leave the girl even if it bothers me

Updates

+1 y

He told me he cannot make female friends cuz Im jealous

[DaySpring]

@iAskYou18 Many girls would feel the same. You're not crazy. BUT here is the thing. He lacks courtesy. That's a pretty big red flag in terms of longevity.

Here me out, I don't know who is right in this situation but that isn't the problem.

The problem is that you 2 cannot work together to resolve it. How will it ever get fixed?

There needs to be a consensus. One should not dominant the situation.

@iAskYou18 My advice: Call him for a serious talk. You two need to figure out where you are and where you're going. Are you both looking for a life partner?

So that means what are you guys currently? And what relationship do you guys want going forward. I don't mean anything vague. We need to sit down and describe exactly what it is we want and there needs to be consensus. From there you two can work on making that a reality. Now you're on the same team.
Teammates have to be harmonious through everything in order to reach their objective.
Harmony is had through making habit out of the right personality traits and thoughts
Now you see why courtesy is SO huge. You must understand that word fully.
@iAskYou18 I hope this helped

[DaveJord]

When it comes to Long Distance Relation always trust your instincts. I always advise that when your starting a relationship or are early into one that you trust your instincts. If your feeling anxiety about the relationship then there is usually a good enough reasons to question if its what your really looking for or want. These types of feelings rarely resolve themselves, and you will always on some level have doubts.

[carxali]

Look at the results lol, men say that you're overly jealous while women say your instinct is right.
You could talk to his female friend calmly, ask her to put some boundaries between them. If she isn't being nice, you tell your boyfriend.
However, I can see your boyfriend's reaction is suspicious. You're supposed to be above than his female friends, however he choose his female friends above you. He's not it, girl.

[Flower7]

He likes her as much more than a friend. Even if she really is a lesbian, which I doubt, he still has feelings for her. That doesn’t change anything from his end.

[Anonymous]

Having a girlfriend doesn't mean she is gay, she might be bisexual.

It is perfectly reasonable to be unhappy that your significant other is investing more of their time and resources into someone other than you.

Just break up and move on, this guy is not the one for you.

Jealously is not helpful.

[LaNc3L0TT]

"We have 1 year relationship and haven't met yet in person", how can this be called relationship. Please don't get me wrong but I just don't get it...

[AndrésC64]

You are being too jealous. Not to mention the fact that a LDR really shouldn't be considered a relationship. Don't make him choose. If got that ultimatum you wouldn't like the answer. If you don't trust him, then leave the relationship.

[noohair]

To me a relationship is mental and physical. If he made a pledge to you, he might not understand how girls define things differently in their head. He might see it as innocent, but you don't. Try explaining that to him. Good luck.

[TyLeeAndPink]

I changed my mind after reading your updates. Definitely leave him. He sounds like crap and you deserve better than that.

[Hangry06]

If she's gay and they're just good friends, this is just baseless jealousy

[In_Trance]

how long were you together before distance became a factor?

[iAskYou18]

We have 1 year relationship and haven't met yet in person

[In_Trance]

You're wasting your time... Log off and move on. If you think a relationship is infinite msgs day after day saying "wyd", you're sadly mistaken

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are you in a LDR?

[OddBeMe]

Just read “long distance”. Yes he’s fcking someone.

[Kurdistan1991]

Voted b