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Just a basic question, in my experience my current girlfriend was talking to another guy behind my back, she was gonna go to a bar party with me for an event but I ended up not being able to go, she ended making a plan to go to a guys hotel room instead & I found out, we fought & we broke up that night & she tried to get back together again the next day, then the same guy invited her to a pre-game Christmas party & she said she was going & I told her I was uncomfortable, they showed up to the same bar together & I beat him up (wasn’t a good idea), she ended up sleeping with him that night (I know because I showed up to her house, they were both in their underpants when I showed up to her house for my clothes I’ve lent her) after the night at the bar. She tried taking me back the next day (& It’s a little gross I was with someone else & got her to answer the phone for me to say I’m busy lol) & I ended up taking her back. She being saying we weren’t together when these things happened for months but I still feel cheated on & betrayed & I don’t know what to do how to approach the situation because she doesn’t let me talk about it & says it’s a long time ago & pushed my feelings about it to the side for half a year & I’m very unhappy with her (but I’m more scared of being unhappy without her). Since the second issue happened I’ve been less committed to her & flirting with other girls & making new relationships (I have not had sex, kiss or physically cheat) because I don’t feel safe or happy in my relationship & she’s trying to tell me that me flirting with other girls is cheating though. I’m just wondering if what she did would be cheating because she says it’s not & expects me to forgive her for it but I don't know how too (& I feel more foolish by the day)?

I went on 2 dates with a girl. We kissed on the second date. The COVID19 shutdowns happened. We have been having weekly 2 hour phone calls ever since.

She says to me, "Maybe with the nice weather, you can come over this weekend for some responsibly socially distant drinks. :) "

I kind of continue flirting with her about how we might break that and be affectionate. She says, "We might... or I might be too much. I've been told that too."

So I go on flirting and she all of a sudden says:

"It's been a long time. Maybe a video call would be good? Or if you'd be good with a social distancing bbq this weekend with my best buddy, Jason, we can see each other then. haha"

See how she shifted things from it sounded like us being together one one one to all of a sudden having some guy in the mix?

She goes on to explain,

"Jason, I've known for years. We met on tinder and the dating thing didn't work, but we became great friends. I think you'd like him. He's a very fun version of me. haha."

The whole exchange was so confusing. I tell her to get back to me about it later. But somehow I felt that it was all made up bullshit. That there was no event coming up. I knew this Jason guy existed because she had told me about him and how they had originally met on Tinder before (on the first date).

Anyway, the next day, I am planning my weekend trying to choose between which ladies I will hang out with. I ask her if things were a go. She says, "... it's not going to work Saturday. My sister asked that I babysit my niece that evening."

Am I wrong to think this whole thing was odd? Is she shit testing me? Is she just not ready for a situation that could lead to us having sex? Is she trying to friendzone me? Or is she trying to get her male friend to meet me and approve of me?