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So many people say that they want their SO to be their best friend but, if their best friend says "Hey, let's try to be more than friends, we often hear that cheesy line: "But I don't want to lose you as a friend." That seems to result in an automatic "urge to kill" for some of us.

Sometimes, of course, it is a transparent excuse that your friend uses because they don't want to say, "But. . . I wouldn't have sex with you if you were the last guy on the planet." But, sometimes, I think people legitimately think that they want to hold on to the friendship and not take any chances.

If you already have developed sexual or romantic feelings for your friend, can you simply ignore those feelings and remain in a purely platonic status? Ladies, will you be okay with hearing your guy friend talk about the new girl and how cool she is when YOU want to be the one at the center of his universe? Guys, how will you handle it when she inadvertently says something that reveals she spent the night with the new Mr. Wonderful? "How can she fuck that jerk?" you think to yourself. Girls, do you want to be there to receive an invitation to his wedding and watch him walk down the aisle with someone else?

So, what do you do when you develop feelings for a friend? I think the friendship probably isn't going to continue if your feelings are rejected or spurned, so why not just go for it because

a. if you lose the friendship, it was probably going to be lost anyway, but

b. if you go forward and start dating and it works out, isn't that the best of all possible worlds?

Have you ever been in this position? How did you handle it?

hurt you with their dishonesty.
A girl who showed romantic signals to me after a month of friendship suddenly told me that she has asked a friend (guy) out for drinks and that her weekend would be busy. By chance i caught them as i was heading out to meet some friends for a night out and she and this guy were heading back drunk towards her apartment. She saw me and had a guilty look on her face and she tried to speak to me but i refused to look her way and carried on walking. Im not sure if ignoring them was good or no but she was not being honest about what she is doing calling the guy a friend. They had locked arms when i saw them.