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I really want my husband to change.
He smokes
He is always sounding annoyed
He has no empathy. When i get angry he just judges me... Makes me feel wrong for feeling angry. Then he just zones me out. I just want him to try to understand my needs and acknowledge and allow me to have feelings. But no.

I wonder if he would ever change.

Before you say shit like, you knew what you were doing when you married him...
1. He said he was giving up smoking
2. He always sounded happy and excited to be with me
3. He and i only dated 3 months when he rushed me to marry him and 99% of our relationship was long distance then.

I dated this guy I found on a dating website about 3 years ago. I didn’t find him too attractive, but I still decided to date him anyway. Eventually, it got so serious to the point where we were planning on marrying each other (my fault; got ahead of myself). Anyway, whenever I tried to meet up with him, he never showed up because he lied saying he knew how to drive but actually didn’t (he lives 3 hours away from me). But, we never saw each other in person and I got more afraid of him because he was becoming more aggressive and controlling. I didn’t tell him that was the reason though, but I did say I wanted to leave the relationship.

While I was trying to leave him, I ended up meeting a boy near me through friends and I enjoyed him more. It took a while but eventually the first guy finally let go of me even though I had to block him on many outlets just because I felt somewhat unsafe that he’ll try to find/hurt me or my boyfriend now. However, a friend that follows him showed me the poems he writes and it’s all about me leaving him and how heartbroken he is. I feel like I should contact him but I know that’s what I shouldn’t do whatsoever. I also feel like a cheater because I knew I liked the other guy while being with him (even though he wasn’t allowing me to end the relationship). What do you guys think?