Good day Gag Community.
I recently read a article that mentioned that some feminist don’t prefer men to be the traditional Gentleman for example opening car door taking her jacket or even lending yours to cover her shoulders when its cold out.
I then tough to myself there are so many traditions that got lost during time and I did some research and found the following
1. He stands when she walks in the room
In the old days, men used to stand up out of respect when a lady walked in the room. It was a sign of respect and humbleness. Today, men will stand out of courtesy when a guest visits a meeting or in a court room. A gentleman will stand from his table when he’s introduced to a guest. Standing shows you are attentive and you care and show respect as every lady deserves.
2. He walks by her on the outside, closest to the street
Why is the topcoat symbolic of the gentleman? Before our drainage systems, a man stood on the outside of the sidewalk in a long coat to protect her from the dust and sewage that could splash up as horse carriages passed by. Sewage was common in the streets. The act of the man laying his coat over a puddle for her to walk over meant he was protecting her feet from fecal material more than rainwater.
Today should be not much different, a gentleman might stand in the way of puddles splashing up from traffic, or in the event a car veers onto the sidewalk. Symbolically it might mean he’ll always be by her side to protect her, through thick and thin..
3. He opens the door for her
A gentleman would help her up into the car as a sign of his protection and strength. Women would hold their dresses up in the old days as they were often long and heavy. The gentleman opened the door for her so she wouldn’t have to drop her dress in the dirt.
The modern gentleman helps her in and out of the car to stand in the way of creepy gawkers. To open a door for a lady is not a sign that she is week or incompetent but rather a gesture of affection and care.
4. He never criticizes a home-made meal
An out-loud criticism of a meal as a guest was considered disrespectful to the host. If anyone takes the time and effort to make a dinner, they are your host. Honor them. Smile and chew. Its not to say that you might not give a gentle hint or tip to correct the meal, after all if you smile an knob the hole time you might have to eat that again sometime. Just don’t be rude or insulting perhaps work it in to a conversation somewhere.
5. He doesn’t LOL for the sake of attention
“Frequent and loud laughter is the characteristic of folly and ill-manners…” Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman (1746). He might write an “LOL” over text in the present, but a gentleman doesn’t have to be loud to command attention. He commands attention through his strong character and charming ways.
6. He pulls out her chair
It was common for the gentleman to pull out her chair and allow her to face the open room. Today, the gentleman pulls out her seat, and sits facing away from the crowd and the TV because he doesn’t want to be distracted from his priority when he forgets to take his Ritalin. This also shows that the lady at your table have you undivided attention
7. He sits after she sits
“…and at the table wait until she is seated, indeed wait until every lady is seated, before taking your own place” The Gentlemen’s Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness (1860). Talk show hosts continue this tradition today by waiting to sit until after their guest has sat down. If Oprah does it, so can you. She is your guest. Allow her to sit first. In case where it is not your guest it still shows that you are mannered enough to show the lady to respect she deserves.
8. He helps her put on/take off her coat
Up through the Edwardian period, women wore multiple layers, and beneath them a restricting corset. A gentleman would help his lady put on and take off her coat because of her restricted movement. Corsets are not common today, but many women still enjoy the help of a gentleman.
9. He doesn’t walk ahead of her
Because ladies wore long dresses and could trip on them, the gentleman walked behind her when climbing a staircase. Tumbling down a flight of stairs isn’t a good way to end a date. Today, the gentleman follows this etiquette rule because she might be wearing high heels or a long dress. This is another sign of him protecting her. However, she may want him to walk upstairs first if she’s wearing a short skirt.
10. He gives up his seat to her if there is only standing room
A gentleman offers his seat to a lady if there are no other seats. I’m talking to you…the dude who wouldn’t give his seat up to the pregnant lady or any lady for that matter.
So what do you think lady’s would you prefer if the guys are still doing these thing an men, are you still being respectful in this manner or have times change it, your opinion would be highly appreciated. I personally still do most of these and feel that being a gentleman is a must as women deserve the respect and manners cost nothing.