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I have been dating my boyfriend for close to 2 years now, and it’s been pretty crazy on his end. I haven’t done anything necessarily as bad as he has to me like lying and whatnot. Anyway though, I decided to visit him on the 26th of this month because he wanted to see me. We were making plans the whole week and decided that we were going to meet in the middle because I was uncomfortable driving the whole way there and back. But, 6 hours before the day arrived, he backed out the plan because he said he didn’t have the money to do it. I told him I’ll give him money, basically anything he needed to ensure that we meet in the middle but he declined everything. I was obviously upset because he had so many days to consider it and he canceled over something I could’ve helped him with.

I rely heavily on people’s words, if they say they’ll do something then I expect them to do it especially with my boyfriend. I feel like he wouldn’t have done that for a good friend or anyone else really so I don’t know why he did that to me. I did try to talk to him about it along with other issues like him blaming his behavior on things he shouldn’t, why saying “calm down” is very ineffective, and saying I’m “complaining” when I was clearly trying to discuss issues with him. Am I crazy? Should I have just let everything go? You tell me.

So my boyfriend was texting my best friend a lot and he took a while to respond to me. I felt jealous in a way because it’s how I get due to the way I was treated before. So I told my best friend but she told him and he tried to ask me what was wrong but I thought it was stupid so I tried to get him to avoid it. So what HE did was go to my best friend and say mean things about me such as how I was toxic, I didn’t care about how he felt, how he’d break up with me if I didn’t trust him by the end of the year because he’s been trying to gain my trust for almost a year (keep in mind he told me that he’d never leave me so when I found out he said this I was devastated and angry), and that I was an unsolved person. I have told him that if he ever has a problem with me to come and talk to me because it’s part of communication, but no he went to my best friend, said a bunch of stuff about me, and then lied to my face when I asked him something at school. So I felt really angry and ended up scheming behind his back. This is what “I” did: so I was really angry and I was ready to confront him this coming up Monday and give him an ultimatum but I was getting really impatient so I had my best friend send a lot of stuff to him and they ended up arguing. I was on her account the whole time so I knew what was happening but at the same time when he was texting MY account I was acting clueless. I was really mad and I believe that me scheming behind his back is how I retaliated to him lying to my face, saying things behind my back, and refusing to listen to what I’m trying to say. Well now that we talked about some of the things he said I realized that when I tell him about me scheming behind his back on Monday then he might hate me. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know who’s right or wrong (for all I know we could both be in the wrong). I also just want to know who did more hurtful things. My best friend said it’s 50/50 bc we both did wrong. Can someone please help? And explain?