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There was a girl on G.A.G who said that she was so fed up with guys that all she wanted to do was use them for money. Both men and woman jumped on her and told her that she was an idiot who gave gals a bad name--and rightfully so. I have never used my bad experiences as a reason to treat someone bad. I usually tried to move on and make at least new and somewhat more evolved mistakes.

However, a man who had bad relationship experiences went off about how gals just don’t want good guys, so he was going to use and abuse them, and men all high fived him and some women even agreed.

What is wrong with this picture?

It is the idea that women “get what they deserve” while men are “victims” of manipulative women. In this case aren’t we saying women are smarter than men and should know better while men are dumb and can only be led around by the nose? I don‘t think that and I believe that ideology would be insulting to males….

Or, couldn’t it be that women are just as prone to being victimized OR that men are just as guilty of making dumb choices.

Apparently not. If a woman get heart broken by a snake guys goes ”Well that is what she gets for picking a jerk”

On the other hand, if a guy get goes all out with flowers, candy and expensive dinners and is hurt by the “she didn’t want a nice guy” syndrome, he has all the right in the world to lash out and play the victim card?

Could it be he was chasing a girl not based on her character but on her looks? He didn’t’ investigate to see if she was woman of character who would appreciate a man like him. He put all his pearl before swine and then chose to blame the swine for doing what a swine does.

Newsflash for both guys and gals--dating is a getting to know one another process. It isn’t marriage or an invite into the sack. Women seeking a hubby should at least wait past the first few date before thinking the man has no right to date others. Men, if you are paying money just to land a girl in the sack--try the more direct approach with a hooker--it is more honest and you get exactly what you want.

Otherwise stop with all the bitterness and fingerprinting. Don’t date if you don’t wish to spend money--or do free things--like go to the park or the beach--pack a picnic--a girl who is down to earth won’t mind and may find it more romantic. Isn’t that what you are REALLY looking for?

I have found that people who mature and picked a mate based on things that are real and not superficial end up with them finding what they want--male and female alike.

Stop the blame game on both sides--take responsibility for your actions and stop using the fact that you made dumb choices as an excuse to act like a horrid human being.

Maybe then you will find what you are looking for.

Okay, I just had to ask.

Now. don't get me wrong, I don't think all women like jerks. I myself am married to a nice guy and so are my female friends (But I tend to hang around mature, more intellectual women I guess,and they like men who offer more than good looks and sex alone).

I think a lot of it has to do with immaturity and the misguided idea that you can change someone. Just as men feel that being able to land a hot babe says something about his masculinity, a woman may feel she has something going on if she can tame a bad boy. Sad thing is, both are shallow victories that don't mean anything and show a bit of insecurity.

I will admit that I dated some doozies in my day, however, they never indicated they were a-holes to begin with, and if I had seen that side, I would have run like my pants were on fire, in fact, when they showed their true colors, I left every time, no pause or apologies.

I was looking for a genuine nice guy and finally found, and married him.

I find his courtesy, care and sensitivity very sexy and I said in one post--I don't have to beg him to leave the seat down or take out the trash--he is courteous, loving and a great father.

I am soooo lucky and blessed.

But I am dismayed that there are some girls on here who not only seek out bad boys, they stay with them even knowing they won't change. There is a young lady on here who has a baby with a man who only comes around for sex and treats her like dirt--AND SHE WANTS HIM BACK--what the heck?

I would cuss a guy like that out and set about raising said kiddo myself to spare them the drama and dysfunction.

For her, I think it is a self esteem issue, but I do wonder why I see a trend where certain girls chase after guys with obvious bad intentions and who stick round for mental and emotional abuse?

Why do these women like such types?