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He told me about how his friend's girlfriend is bisexual and his friend lets his girlfriend bring home a girl and fool around with each other (without him). And then I randomly asked him "if i kissed a girl in the club, would u consider it cheating?"
And he responded "nope, as long as its not a guy. And if you want to go fool around with a girl just let me know and ill let you. i wouldn't mind that. just as long as its not a guy because then i would think of that as cheating and that would count as sex"
Wtf? Lesbians can have sex too right? And does this mean he doesn't mind sharing me? Why does he not care?

I've been dating this guy for 6 months now. The issue is that when i said i loved him and he said it back, he hasn't been able to say it back without flinching. Even once saying that he doesn't feel as strongly for me as i do for him. He also refuses to acknowledge that we're boyfriend and girlfriend, saying he doesn't like the term. Yet i introduced myself to one of his friends as his girlfriend and he didn't have a problem with it. It's almost like there are moments where he's perfect for me, while other times he doesn't care. I don't feel safe or loved within the relationship. I asked him to tell me that he wants me to stay, that he can see a future with me, and the answer to that question varies depending on how he's feeling at the time. He's also jealous of any male friends i have, yet i'm expected to tolerate him saying 'love you always xxx' to one of his female friends. Yet he can't even say it to me.

Now i've started talking to another guy at work. He makes me laugh, he isn't afraid to approach me to talk to me, no matter who's around, and he isn't afraid to make a fool of himself to me. He messages me for hours, and states that he's excited to see me, and messages me each day even if we've seen each other at work. Whereas the current guy i'm dating won't call me, or refuses to carry on a conversation (sometimes hours between each reply, days or weeks if we've had an argument), yet he'll talk for hours with his 'friend'.

I'm in love with the guy i'm currently seeing, yet he doesn't make me feel secure in the relationship and i know i can't force him to act the way i want him to with me. Whereas this other guy is so open and genuinely happy to talk to me, it's a breath of fresh air.

I honestly don't know what to do. I'm torn because i want to stay for the hope that he'll be the person that i know he can be, who he is from time to time. Not the version where he threatens to end things after every argument.

What should i do? :/

In my class there's one guy who acts stange only torwards me.
He fools around and want attention but still.
We've never talked much.

- i found him sometimes looking at me and when i catch him he looks away
- he talks to my friend when i'm with her but never to me
- he also always comment sometimes with his guys
- he always say hi to my friend when they are not with me
- when i was with my friend at restaurant they came and sit on the other side pf room without saying hi to us and when my friend looked at them they were looking at us commenting and they left 10-15 minutes before us and when we exit they were standing there and looking at us
- few days ago they were making planes of paper and trowing them in class and first they were trowing in one guy who was in front of tham sitting. I was in one part of class and talking to friend who sits behind me and i could see tham in that position. This guy was sitting so he could see me and other two not but infront of me. He started to comment that they trow that someone is not looking. That guy i was talking to is good with tham so first they were trowing at him first. After they said that someone is not looking i was suspicious that they want to trow at me but teacher came.
- they were always going on one part to smoke and now they are coming to spot where me and my friend smoke last few days

There's more but it's too long already. What do you think?