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I’m 18 and since I was a little girl my mother’s little brother was always here for me while my dad was more focused on his career. My uncle was a student when I was a child but he taught me how to read, to swim, to ride a bike, and he bought me my first iPhone when he started his business, my mom even told me that he changed my diapers more than her and he even take me sometimes on trips when he can. He’s only 17 years older than me but I feel that he was more present on my life than my father. And I still remember that he was the only one that used to read me some fairy tails while my parents never did that. Even If he was handsome and popular he always preferred to spend time with me, to teach me new things instead of partying with his friends in college. When I was asked who I love more after my mother I accidentally said my uncle and I felt bad because I thought that I should love my dad more, even if he was absent but I noticed that my uncle was more here for me than him. Isn’t it weird?

So, our tutor...

He says many things, some of those things are highly disturbing.

By the way, it's a GIRLS ONLY class.

"Men and women can not, and should not be friends. Friends shouldn't be of opposite gender. You girls shouldn't talk to guys, because guys are not good at all, he would try to... You know... be in a relationship with you. I expect you to obey me."

"You girls shouldn't think that 'Why should women take the husband's last name after marriage?' That's how the world works, logic doesn't answer everything!"

"If you run off with a guy to marry, I would never forgive you. Love marriage is wrong on so many levels! Arranged marriages are the best! I love how my mother and father were married, they didn't even see each other before the marriage. You betray your parents if you do it. I expect you to obey me."

He says we shouldn't talk to guys, guys are bad, evil monsters, harassers, etc.

"Girls' favourite colour MUST BE pink or red, it shows femininity. But now a days, we have these weak men who like pink! How sad!"

"You need not to choose your life partner for you. That's your parents' job, they'll help you find your partner, you just have to accept him or decline. Leave it to your parents!"

"Besides, women are the weaker gender, restrictions on you are apt and appropriate! Let me tell you how you are weak, you are physically weaker, shorter and smaller. You are more emotional, while us men tend to be more logical! Men could be more intelligent too, just look at the world around you. Everything is built and is being maintained by men."

"Women can't keep a secret, women also tend to get scared easily! I used to scare the girls of my class by throwing cockroaches and lizards at them, haha!"

"No matter how modern you be, always respect traditions and follow them."

"You women are weak just like Eve, the first female, being punished!"

All of these things were said by him.
I dislike how he expects us to obey him that way. His views...
Or is he right?

We work a later afternoon shift and after work he invites me to come over every night. We sit and talk for hours sometimes having sex after sometimes we just part ways and make plans to see each other the next night. For months he was forced to work one day every weekend till about 7 pm. On the weekdays we work till 11 and sometimes hangout till 5 am.
We had some time off over Christmas but he got caught up in family stuff and then was sick so he ended up cancelling on me multiple times. He does that a lot. It seems like unless I'm driving to his place I won't be seeing him. He asked me if I'd want to go on a holiday with him. He planned a double date for 3 weeks from now.
I asked him once 'what we were' and he said we're basically dating but I want the date that our relationship starts to have a cute memory attached to it.
I've told him multiple times that I need to have actual dates with him not just see him in the middle of the night!!! All we can do is sit in his vehicle because he lives with his parents who don't want me in his room at 2am. When I was telling him to stop cancelling on me and that it felt like he was always making excuses he said I <3 you (I think it was just to get me to stop asking him questions).
The other day he told me he sees this as a long term thing. He wants to take it slow and make it last long. Later I said I love you to him and he just kissed me and said I was cute.

After all that my question is: Is he really too busy to see me during the day? Does it seem like he's all talk but when it comes to actually living up to his promises (our plans) he never follows through?