Search Results: starting to be mean

I’ve been at my job in career services for about 3 months. Prior to this, I worked as an academic advisor for two years. This is now my 2nd job in higher ed, regardless of how bad I am at it I do enjoy it. I was initially hired with another person as the dept is meant for two people but she quit after two weeks.

To this day I still get corrections, on corporate calls when we discuss placements I feel like I am drilled by my boss (justifying our placement rates). Yet last week, we had someone from corporate actually visit on site and spoke with them about an hour. My boss and her director (he’s quite the talker) were saying that since I’ve been here, this is the most she’s seen from students engaging in quite some time and how I’m excelling, a good fit etc.

Then why all this do this and do that or do it this way instead or no that’s wrong etc? I think I have my 90 day review soon and plan to voice these concerns. At my last job, I gave myself the wiggle room to make more mistakes and have a learning curve because I was brand new to the field. Now that this is my second in higher edu, just different depts. this shouldn’t be happening. Starting to think it isn’t a good fit.

She’s 26 and never been in a real relationship. She’s never been approached by a guy she’d want to date in person, the only “dates” she’s gotten was from the dating apps. And she's officially given up on those, after being on and off them for years. She’s told she’s cute…I mean I’m starting to believe I must be very average. But even average girls get action often lol. I gained a little bit of weight but even before that, guys never talked to me. I know for certain that attractive women have their pick of the litter. When I go out with family/friends, they tell me that guys look at me but they never actually speak to me.

I’m very quiet but I don’t think that’s a deal breaker. With the dating apps, the good looking guys only wanted sex, the cute guys were always my exact height ( I prefer taller guys) and the less attractive guys always had the better personalities

What’s wrong with me 😡