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Now that I think about it, I wonder if my ex was bad company. We only dated for a few amount of months (if you’d even call that a relationship). It was long distance and we met online, he drove across the country for a living. I only saw him averaged 2x a month in person. We went on a vacation and split right after. Here are a few things that somewhat stand out to me as red flags:
1) He would bring up his exes rather often. And I brought this to his attention. He said with this driving job taking place right after HS, he did not have a lot of opportunities to socialize and the only relatable opportunities were with the women he dated at that time.
2) He told me he “loved” me after only a month. We spoke on the phone for hours everyday and met up in person a few times prior to this BUT in my opinion it was too soon.
3) He was never nervous, he seemed to lack emotion.
4) One time when we met up, I was using his phone to use safari and search something up. We “deleted” the app together after things were “official”. When I searched the browser, the website for the dating app appeared as “recently viewed” I believe.
5) He didn’t want to wait till marriage to have sex. He was eager to be intimate. After he told me he “loved” me, we had sex for the first time shortly after.
6) He was rather friendly. Very blunt if he told me he was checking out another woman. Told me of women he used to socialize with prior to talking to him. Seemed to make friends easily.
7) Moved on rather soon after things broke off. We ended things earlier last year and around three months later, he posted a new photo with another woman and they’ve been together since. If he was official with this chick so soon after splitting, I wonder if they were talking while I was with him.

Please read all and tell me your opinions.

😌 Please don’t lecture on how if anyone truly loves someone they will want them in every way. Some people might , you very well might, others might not , or might be unable, or just not ready... We all live in the same world but have vastly different experience or history that brings us to who we are now. Many experience create obstacles to having straight forward intimacy- be it sex emotional bonding etc... And anyhow, I said IN LOVE, not love. 🙃😁

in my opinion being in love is much more an involuntary state of being , rather than a choice. I think you can fall in love without it being a conscious decision. Once in love, you decide to love someone or move on. I think falling in love just shines a light on a potential path , it does not tell you which path to take. That is a decision you make after the fact.

In any case, if you find my using’ in love’ -to be distinguishable from loving- disturbing then just replace this with ‘strong feelings’ 😊

Thank you ! 🌹

I met a model and we decided to hook up. We live 5 minutes from each other so it’s convenient. My expectation was something casual and no headaches. Both grown adults having fun and that was it! He was probably the most disrespectful and the biggest jerk I have met. Worst sex too since he wants to make minimum effort in bed. I don’t even think he finds me attractive and he just wants to get laid. He will say anything to get me in his bed. I hate him!

First, he made me meet his friends and completely disrespected me by giving them the impression that I am a big h*e. He tried to get me to have sex with his friend because he was interested in me. I felt so disgusted and disrespected.

Second, he once made me wait for hours in his bed. He finally came to bed and he used me to just go down on him. He then just went to sleep and didn’t do nothing to me. I actually got upset and almost slapped him. I cried when I got home.

Third, he said he will order me an uber to get me home. Hence why I agree to go over to his place. After sex, he told me my uber was here to kick me out. There was no car outside so I refused to leave. It was 4am and it was freezing outside. He got really angry started yelling. He actually never ordered an Uber for me, he just wanted me out. He didn’t care about my safety at all or being frozen in this weather. He later said I watch where I spend my money and who I spent it on. I ended uber myself back home.

I am angry at myself for allowing it to happen. But i am also very angry at him for trying hard to get me to sleep with him, and then completely disrespect me. He doesn’t even say “hi” to me when we see each other. It wasn’t like this in the beginning but he became very disrespectful and rude!

I want to submit a post on thedirty. com and ruin his life and get my revenge. I’m a little worried he’s going to do something bad to me. He probably would know it’s me who post it. Should I?