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When I say “dangerous” I don’t mean a guy making some asshole remark like “fuck you cunt” or something else when a woman (politely) turns him down. Him showing some frustrated anger is NOT getting “dangerous”. It might not be appropriate and even creepy. But there is a fine line between him being sour grapes vs. being a legitimate threat.

I’m talking about a guy seriously getting physically violent, legitimately threatening violence or aggressively stalking afterwards. I’m talking in person stalking too (not stalking on social media). Like showing up at the woman’s house or at her work.

I do believe men like this exist. I make zero excuses for them and it’s twisted/wrong. But I also believe they are very rare (less than 1 out of a 1000 men). Instead women get paranoid because of ANECDOTAL evidence. They read a story online or hear of friend of a friend having a legitimately scary incident. Then they get this bogey man complex about men in general.

I say this because I think this paranoia has made women progressively worse in the last few years at tactfully rejecting men. They rather play games, ghost and of course friend zone and rationalize it to themselves out of a misplaced paranoia. When in reality all they have to say is “hey thanks for approaching me but I have to be honest I’m not interested”’. While no guy likes hearing that the reality is 99% of men out there will accept that and move on.

But why is it so hard for women to be (politely) honest? I think the so called rise of the “incel” community is partially attributed to men being frustrated about not getting direct communication from women. The game playing does more psychological damage then they realize.

Most men can take rejection especially in our mid 20s or older. We are used to sticking our necks out and taking the risk. It unfortunately comes with the territory but it is how it is.

This girl I been talking to for about 3 weeks. Some time she take long time to respond. Like past 10 hours+ mark. Someday she respond quickly sometime doesn’t. So couple days ago I ask her out on a date and she available the next after 5pm. So I was like okay I’m excited to see you. She arrive on time ( she live an hour away from me), on a dot! Dress nice and happy to see me. So we go get some boba tea. And we went on Long drive just to talk. She share her drink with me 5min after we got into the car. We both little shy at first but night went on we got comfortable and we both have really great time talking each other and enjoy each other company. Say we laugh like 90% of the time!. As I get comfortable I start asking if her hand is cold so I hold her hand, and she doesn’t seem to be bother, so we lock hand. After couple mins I let go cuz is getting sweat! And I did that couple of time and doesn’t seem to mind. Seem pretty happy and smiling about it. So I start moving in to her personal space and she didn’t care either. And she hold eye contact with me when I talk to her, and I’m the one who break the eye contact, look at her again and she still look at me. Her eyes is beautiful🔥. I did playful touch her lot but she doesn’t seem to mind. At the end of the date i playful said oh so we going to kiss? And she said with playful tone: I don’t have gum, now u make me overthink, and you got let it happen naturally u can just say it like that. So she hug me and kiss me on the cheek instead. And said I got wait for next time! And she said it again when we went for another hug. So next day I follow up with her. Say I enjoy our date and she enjoy it aswell! So I text her the only thing bother is no kiss, and she said don’t complain or you won’t get any. So I just laughs it off cuz is was funny. Next day she went back to long responding. What do you guys think is she actually into me or she just playing game or is she giving me hella test right now?