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So I purchased my condo around a year ago & worked with realtor around my age. She’s maybe a few months older than me, she’s friendly and good at what she does. I shared a few personal things with her, fears when it came to buying my place. She follows me on IG and used to check in during the holidays. She shared a few things with my mom and I, when she worked with me during the buying process, she mentioned she was still renting. Also mentioned that she went through a few tough times personally and how her finances were affected in the process. Mind you, I see her IG and FB, she seems pretty comfortable. During these “financial issues”, she’s been traveling all around the country. Goes on nice vacations and has a lot of friends, mentioned that before she bought a duplex earlier this year, she and her boyfriend rented an apt. The apt was like 2k a month, yes, I get having help with the rent helps but that’s a lot for a person with financial issues. In less than a year from when I bought my place is when she bought her duplex. I’m not hating, I’m just saying, I don’t buy her “struggles” story.

I think she was sharing that story to come across as more relatable & possibly humble. We are the minority (she’s white) but yeah am I just jaded?

So my boyfriend has been my best friend for 5 years. In high school we dated for about 2 years. Then we broke up for 2 years. Now we've been dating for almost a year again. Best friends through it all, and friends with benefits for a while.

But I just found out I'm high school he cheated on me for a few months before breaking up with me. And he then basically dated the girl for that summer when we were broken up. They were just talking, hanging out, and kissing on the cheek. This girl became my friend once we broke up and was like the main one I leaned on and who supported me through the break up, me never knowing. I suspected he was with another girl but he would never tell me who. After all this time I just found out this month, and we talked through it and everything. I can forgive them, but I don't know if I can get over it and forget it. It sucks bc this relationship we've had now has been amazing, much better than when we were young and dumb, we've been really happy and healthy. I don't want to give that up for something that happened a long time ago, but I can't trust him now (i already have trust issues from childhood trauma!) And i don't want to be that toxic girlfriend who always goes through his phone, i hate that. But that's how I found out, because I suspected it still and it still hurt not knowing and he let me go through his phone so I found out. But since he lied to me for so long it just makes me sick to think it barely affects him now and he never would've told me. Also back then, they broke it off bc he never stopped loving me and realized he never liked her like that he'd just think of me, and he broke his heart talking to other guys. So I don't know. What would you do in my situation?

I was 17 at the time. My then HS boyfriend's foster mother (he became an orphan as a toddler) wronged me badly. She involved other people into this and tainted my reputation. Our relationship ended because of her. I lost a couple friends because of her.

Many years later (now that I'm married and with two kids), this year I received an apology from her. From the first time ever, there was no excuses, nothing to gain from (in the past she used to turn nice for something in return) and it was short. This is the message:
''(My name) I'm so sorry for everything. No one ever deserves getting treated like that. You weren't the problem. It was me. I don't blame you if you hate me. Once again, I'm sorry for hurting you''.

If it took you that long to know and understand what you did was wrong is it even worth responding to it? I'm not even on speaking terms with that past boyfriend. Is it already too late? I guess I can reply to her. Would you reply to a late apology?