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So basically I recently had a birthday! Great right! Yes it was lots of family time and we brought the tequila bottles. But at the end of the night maybe around 3am shit went down. My cousin’s boyfriend/wannabe husband let’s call him T, who I get along with very well as well as with his kids which I love very much. I also love my cousin, S, so much too. So anyways story is... at 3 am I was talking to T in the basement area/ backyard area of my uncles house when he said come with me upstairs. Since his son was upstairs I went thinking again innocent bc it was my bday and I was very much in the vibes of loving family time together so I was happy. But then he brings me to the lobby area next to the front door and tries to kiss me. I naturally pulled away so he didn’t get to kiss me and went downstairs to my friend. I was shaking in shock. Then S came to me and my friend and we started to talk about other things and I noticed that T was lurking in the shadows watching me talk to my cousin. I guess he thought I would say something. Anyways now days after the party I’m going crazy thinking this happened to me. I know it’s not my fault. I don’t know Now if I should tell my cousin or not. I really want to because it was wrong and because of Girl code. I feel bad honestly for his littlest kid because he is attached to my cousin. What do you think I should do? I really love her she is older too and I know how this will affect her. I don’t even know when I would be able to say it because we only meet now in family gatherings. Usually for a reason like birthdays... hers is next week. I’m gonna end up ruining her bday.

So I'm bisexual and I've been chatting to this girl for about 4-5 months now. We live in the same country but in different parts of the country and I've decided to go and meet her.

From day one, she was quite flirtatious. I've been honest early on that I'm into girls and when I felt she was flirting, I started flirting back.
We've had some really serious conversations via text where I've brought up things about us having kids together etc and she has responded. Whether she was playing or not, this is not something I believe a straight girl would do. She must be interested in my opinion. She's also not someone who strikes me as an asshole. Quite a wholesome person who has her head screwed on right.

My question though is around her interest. Often, she'll text first and I respond. Sometimes straight away or sometimes about 15 minutes later (no game. Just busy). With her, we'll text back and forth and then suddenly, she stops responding for hours, or even overnight. I find this bizarre. She is busy with other stuff but I'm wondering what's up with that. Like now, she texted me out of the blue and I responded 10 minutes later, I see her online on WhatsApp very quickly but she doesn't read my message. She is hardly ever online tbh which makes me think she doesn't want to come across as too interested as she may fear her attraction to me.
We Skype once a week and I've seen her visibly taken aback. Ok, it sounds silly but sometimes things do manifest on someone's face or by their mannerisms.

I am confused by her texting behaviour. As it stands, I'm due to fly up next week. She will say yes she will meet and we'll start discussing the future, in a roundabout way, then she pulls away again.

I know for a fact she is not seeing anyone else. As I said, this girl isn't an asshole.