This guy seriously pointed something out that is so unbelievably not spoken about, it isn't spoken about enough in schools, not enough in households and certainly not enough in society as a whole.
In case the video does not open, here is what he explains.
Guys are basically taught from a very young age that it is EXPECTED of us to approach women first through school, family and also in movies.
The idea that we are meant to do this is something stressful and we believe if we aren't able to but other guys can, we feel inadequate for not being capable of that feat.
We go through our lives, seeing many women we find attractive but don't do anything because we weren't taught HOW to approach them.
Some guys do approach EVERYBODY, but that is only 1% of men who are able to do that, the ones who do approach everybody, a even smaller amount are approaching the ones they like.
Then you have guys who will never approach women then finally the left over guys, they are waiting for the right time, a moment when there are few or no disturbances that would cause for failure.
He explains that guys also hardly know when is the right moment or what we are actually meant to do when that moment arrives.
Explaining to the women that this is why women mainly get guys who do creepy stuff when they come up to them, they don't know what they are supposed to do.
He explains that women should be more proactive, as a means to prompt the guys to do something and feel more at ease around them.
Mentioning the quote of "If a man hasn't got the balls to approach me, he isn't the kind of man I want" and telling the women in the video why they are absolutely insane, that if guys did that then they wouldn't have jobs, we would be doing it all the time.
Out of 30 women a man sees, he MIGHT approach 1 of them. In a moment when he feels is the easiest to approach and do something.
If you are with a big group of friends, NOPE, he won't do it
If you are with that gay friend of yours, NOPE, because he think he's your boyfriend
If you seem in a rush, NOPE, he thinks he will just be a nuisance and will make you angry
You're walking down the street, NOPE, he thinks he'll seem creepy approaching you.
And when girls say "I only ever meet players" but that is because they only wait to see the guys who talk with every girl, so of course they will meet the players and not the decent guys.
Then he finishes by saying "It's not about you making the move per se, but making it easier for him to make the move, don't be easy, but for the first 5 seconds be easy"
And in that video I just thought to myself, if this was how things were explained to everyone at a younger age, we wouldn't have so much tension between genders and find it easier to make a move on one another.
But who knows, maybe this post will help girls understand why guys don't approach them as much and why they should also make moves.
This post has nothing to do with any recent events involving myself, it was just a video I came across in my playlist because the guy seriously just said it as it is and I respect that.
I wonder if there could be a video for guys where a woman does this kind of teaching to guys, that would really help us too.
Well, I just wanted to put that out there, nothing too big, just a nice little bit of news :)
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