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Let's be real, we all have our good features and bad features about ourselves but I like to believe that for most of us our plusses outweigh our flaws. However, there's a lot of people out there that struggle to get dates and into relationships despite being all-around good people. We all know there are two sides to the attraction coin; a physical and emotional connection are both needed to create or sustain attraction. But unlike physical attraction, which develops pretty quickly, emotional connections take longer to develop because you need to see multiple aspects of the person's personality to really get a feel for them. Something that can't really be achieved in the span of a couple dates. And yet people are dismissed as potential relationships because there was no "spark" in such a short period of time, and because of this, a lot of great people are either dismissed or never given a chance in the first place.

So back to the question title: why do you think people don't want to date you?

A) Do you think it's because people are too impatient and don't want to try to see your great personality through all the initial awkwardness and nervousness that often accompanies getting to know someone new?

B) Or do you think its because you don't put yourself out there enough and allow other people the chance to see what a great person you are?

C) Or do you think you're just ass ugly and no amount of a great personality could ever compensate for the utter lack of physical attraction?

Obviously these aren't mutually exclusive but I just wanna get a feel from everyone. For me it's definitely A and B. My personality's the type that grows on you gradually over time instead of being immediate. I just think a lot of people don't have the patience for gradual and want immediate.

Anyways, give me yo answers.

This situation started at the beginning of the school year back in August when Girl 1 was interested in me but I did not know her so I could not recipricate that interest. My friend told me about her interest in me and I communicated to him my disinterest in her becasue of my lack of knowledge about her. I imagine this information was later communicated back to her in some shape or form. Meanwhile, I got interested in Girl 2 because we'd been good friends up until then. Throughout the following months me, Girl 1, and Girl 2 had hung out, talked, and texted with me getting to know Girl 1 better and better as time went on. One day Girl 2 calls me after bringing up wanting to ask me a question. She's nervous the whole time we're talking and I can tell she's trying to ask me out. I end up actually doing the asking Girl 2 out after we went over the whole I like you, you like me exchange. Thing is, after a week of dating I realized I didn't like Girl 2 any longer that the initial feelings that were there weren't there any longer, and Girl 1 seemed like a much better option now that I had gotten to know her.

Now I don't know what to do. The fact that I don't think of Girl 2 as girlfriend material doesn't mean I don't still care for her. I feel like I would hurt her tremendously if I broke up with her and went on to date Girl 1 afterward.

Note 1: G1 and G2 are friends, not on good terms, I have learned, since I've asked out Girl 2 but still friends.
Note 2: This is my first girlfriend and I don't want to fuck up too much. I would say that I don't want to fuck up period, but that's clearly not a possibility at this point.
Note 3: Both girls are great, I just don't feel like I have anything in common with G2. We have different interests, we have little to talk about, and our conversations turn to stupid arguments (not like legit arguments just like: What makes a GIF funny etc.) to fill up space. G1 I can actually ho