Search Results: should i make the next move

Obviously I’m not going to take his hand as in keep it for myself—need to get that out of the way before you witty ones come in and make a joke about it.

Anywho, here’s the situation. Next week my friends and I are going to watch the movie “Us” which is a rated R horror/ scary movie. I plan to somehow get talking to my crush right as we walk in the theatre, walk right behind him, and plop myself down right next to him.

I’m like 7/10 sure he likes me (they aren’t great odds but he’s a more shy guy so I take what I can get) and plan to like, over exaggerate how scared I am and like grab onto his hand or arm or whatever.

Should I do it? Any recommendations for when or how gradually/how sudden? Has anyone done this before & if you have, did it work for you? I’m just really trying to make the first move and maybe this would be sufficient.

Any sort of advice helps. Anon off because they always love to talk about matriarchy or whatever and it‘s annoying. Anyways, yea. Please do let me know if I should do this. We’re pretty close friends so I know he wouldn’t find it weird if I sat next to him but uhh yeah.

3 years ago we both lived in NY and we had a short affair. He was about to move to Chicago so it was clear to both it didn’t have a future. I didn’t want to do long distance. Still he wrote to me a few times afterwards, telling me that it was too bad we didn’t live closer and that sex was so good (it was). In the meanwhile we both had other relationships which ended.

We kept in touch over social media and lately, the past year, he started liking every picture I posted on Instagram etc. last year he still had a girlfriend, they broke up some 6 months ago.

I went to chicago last month and wrote to him to ask if he had any tips on what to visit. He told me unfortunately that week he would have been in California, that it was sad because he would have loved to see me again, but he proposed I stay at his apartment, as it was empty. I thanked him but didn’t accept because I had already booked the hotel and it wasn’t refundable.

Last week he posted an Instagram story from New Jersey for work, a place some 2 hours from ny. I was in Miami for work those days, but I know he goes to New Jersey every now and than and I’d be interested in seeing him again and I wrote to him “next time you got o nj you should stop by say hi in New York”.

He answered he’d love to, and that next time he will try to take a few days off and stop in New York, but than he also didn’t try to chat longer etc.

On the basis of the experiences I had these past years, i think we would be a good match and I’d be up to give it a try even if it’s long distance. But I don’t understand if he’s interested at all, or if he replied like that just out of politeness and he’s not interested, even in stopping by just for sex (because I know that if he did stop by for sex it would be easy to convince him to try see if we can make it work, as the sex was real real good, we really have a good chemistry, and he maybe just needs to be remembered about that).