Search Results: the waiting game

I think often when women are trying to solve a relationship parable, people just tell them useless things like be nice or open or pleasant or supportive encouraging etc. its not helpful. im not waiting for something to happen. i want to fix things, i just dont know -what- to do. I am specifically trying to solve a problem not just let light fairies into my life.

the person im dealing with is currently angry with me and i want to clear things up for him but im not sure what to say because i dont think we trust each other enough to be in a relationship. but if i say i want to be friends he will think i dont like him i more than like him, if it do not bother me to say id say im in love.

we dated a while ago but he used things too quickly-not sex just generally- and i didn't know how to go slow and be around him so i just ended it but never explained. now we hang out & i can tell we both still like each other. and he's asked me out but bc i dont want to make the same mistake im distant with him so he won't think im ready or anything so that i dont disappoint him... but its back firing bc he thinks im playing games.

anyhow we already hang out and that is not helping clear things up. so i dont see how
be present is supposed to be helpful. more like no one reads anything other than the title.

-do tell him i want to be with him but be friends first?

-or tell him how i feel but want to be friends for now?

or something else?

i can't really ask him what he wants bc I've confused him so i dont think he'd be able to answer. i can't really answer but he asked a question and i dont want to ignore it.

we dated 2 years ago. weve been on friendly terms for the past 6 months. he got mad 5 days ago and said he does not want to play games. and asked what i want.

maybe casual dating is an ok idea I don't know. but he does not date around so he might take it as i dont really like him.

should i just ask him why he asked?