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So my boyfriend and I has talked about our past relationships few times
He told me about his first girlfriend
I think she was the only ex girlfriend of his that affected him the most
This is coz he told me that she's his first everything (his first girlfriend, he lost his virginity to her...) and that she left him for another guy
They were together 4 years ago and only was together for 4 months
He has told me that she's works in the same workplace and thats how they met
He told me that he did try to go back with her again before he met me but she didn't care and just ignored him and thats the last time he talked to her (which was 1.5 years ago)
He told me all of this in the beginning of our relationship
Recently we were kinda talking about our exes again and he told me that his ex still works in the same workplace and thought she left already
He tells me that he rarely sees her though
- he works mon to fri during day time
- she works fri evenings and sundays
He tells me that she's doing this... doing that..
And i asked "how do u know all this?"
And he said "my co worker tells me. They are close friends. He just tells me out of no where. I dont talk to my ex. I always try to avoid her esp on fridays coz thats when she comes to work or if we have compulsory meetings and then i just walk out. I thought she would of left this workplace ages ago "
We hardly talk about our exes but few times they have come up
Tbh i am feeling abit jealous and uncomfortable that my boyfriend and his first ex still works in the same workplace but i know i can't do anything about it 😔
Me and my boyfriend been together for a year now (im his longest relationship and he's my longest relationship)
Do u think i should be worried and feel this way? Or i shouldnt?
Would u feel jealous and uncomfortable too? If your partner and his/her ex still works in the same place?

Hi everyone,

I talk quite often with a guy (19) who was sort of a sexfriend a year ago. I truly love him, not just a crush or lust. Things to know : he often tries to make me jealous, he's completely attracted by me, I suspect him to like me more than he says, it's been a year we hang around each other, and he's the confident-proud guy, wants to have control of everything and he's afraid of commitment.

While we were talking last day, he was flirting with me a lot, and we had a stupid talk about regular sex and official relationships. He told me "find a boyfriend" and suddenly with no reason "and you know he's not me".
It's not the first time he says things like that, with absolutely no reason, like "I don't have feelings" etc, I've never speak about being official with him though, he doesn't even know my feelings for him, but obviously he thought about "us" many times.

Why does he do that? Trying to convince himself he doesn't like me? To push me away?

How can I persuade him to let me a chance to build something with him?

(For more details, I've ever talked about my story with this guy in older posts, I might seem annoying with that, sorry) Don't tell me to move on, that's not going to answer my questions. Thanks a lot for your help !