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My boyfriend/exboyfriend have 18 months of history together and we used to live together for 5 months. We’ve been through a lot together and he has helped me out quite a lot and has been there for me. His mom was w even inviting me for the holidays and teaching me about Judaism as well and I was visiting him when he was in jail for 3 months and he was always telling me he wants a future with me and was making future plans... back in the summer we took a small break cuz we had a few misunderstandings but then he kept begging me to come back to see him although he was going out with someone new...
he tells me he doesn’t love this girl and that I have better qualities than her and his parents even prefer me over her... she has even beaten him up and bruised him as well and can be very abusive to him... we still see each other in secret and sleepover at his place.. he says it’s difficult to get rid of her cuz she’s a crazy person...

why would he still contunue to be seeing me if he's with this new girl that he doesn’t love?
is he still in love with me? Or does he want me over her?

Long story short: my boyfriend and I were together for just over a year, we’ve both been there for each other to doctors appointments, he helped me lose weight and encouraged me to get my drivers license and was always cooking for me... always very affectionate as well... his parents really love me as well - especially his mom... she was even inviting me over for the holidays and teaching me about Judaism and baking with me and driving places with me... my boyfriend and I were also living together at his parents house for 5 whole months as well and everyday I was visiting him at the hospital when he ha surgery and he was ther for me when I had a minor surgery as well... he was in jail for 3 months cuz he drive with an invalid drivers license and I waited for him and everyday he was calling me and his mom and telling. Me that he loves me and wants a future with me and was making future plans with me... also was encouraging me to spend time with his family... now when he retired back, we had some miss understandings and a fight and we took a break.. he met this aggressive bitchy goth chic who always fights him and abuses him... he was begging me to come back for 2 whole weeks and even gave me a mermaid necklace cuz he knows I love the little mermaid...
he always hugs me and kisses me in his sleep and whispers that he loves me so much and sometimes even holds my hand in his sleep... but that other abusive woman is still around and he tells me he doesn’t love her at all and that I have better qualities than her... his mom even tells him that she prefers me over the other woman and his dad can’t stand her either... his parents tell him I’m more suitable for him as well... this other woman bruised him and beat him up as well...

he someotimes gets into bad/sad moods when I leave his place... does he still love me and seem to regret the break we took?

My ex boyfriend is abuser. He also cheated on me, and threatened to expose my nudes (to make things worse, he is a cop!) ... And, of course I deleted all my contacts with him, and for 4-5 months it was all okay, I stopped having feelings for him, even though he continued to message me few times a month (and he still does) . And every time, we end up having an argument, about why we broke up, why don't I want to be with him again... He always says that he changed, that even though he did have side chicks he always loved me and he always ended up coming back to me, because I'm the only one who understood him etc. I am 99% sure that it is not true, but lately I kind of started missing him and thinking about him. Apart from things he has done, he always was really peotective and nice to me, and never hurt me beside things I already mentioned. I know, I don't have self respect, I am stupid for missing an abuser, but it's really not my choice, I just can't go on without him. I'm really afraid that the next time, I'll be able to forgive him. Should I do it? Do you believe he deserves another chance?