Is my boyfriend abusive? (please help)?

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The first month we were dating, was great. We did rush into things and it happened fast and I honestly wasn’t really ready but he really wanted me to. I would’ve way rather waited but I felt that since my living situation at the time was dangerous and awful that this was a perfect way to get out of it. I felt constantly bad and told him I’d pay rent and that if I was ever a bother he could tell me to leave but he was extremely wealthy and had no problem with me staying. A red flag WAS though that he came on strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this before by anyone." and telling me he loved me only a week into dating. So then about mid July was when I started seeing how different him and I were from each other and the fights started happening. He did this thing where he was just constantly rude and hateful and always was negative about something. He’d be extremely self centered all the time. For example he’d put on his anime when I never was interested in watching it and I would nicely ask if we could find a show together to watch and I’d throw out suggestions and he would say they all seemed gay or stupid. It’s his way or the highway basically. He then started calling me a “retard” a lot which I find an offensive word because I used to work with special needs kids and I think it’s ugly and hateful and he knows that. He always knows I’m insecure about my intelligence and he’s extremely educated and smart so I always feel way lower than him. But then other days it’s him saying I look pregnant and I need to go on a diet and become healthy because he’s “worried about my health” meanwhile he’s overweight and has no room to speak. He interrogates me intensely about who I talked to and where I was, put my location on so he can track where I am. (Part 1)
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11 mo
Then in September is when it got REAL downhill, he found out I lied about some guys I had been with in the past, he called me a liar and said our whole relationship was a lie. I was ashamed because I didn’t want to seem like a hoe and in my opinion, what’s in the past is the past and I shouldn’t have lied but I apologized. The reason it got brought up was because I found out I had chlamydia from a guy who I hooked up with before I met him and he called me disgusting, a whore, a slut and etc
11 mo
Although I’m not proud of it, I was ashamed as it was and felt dirty and disgusting so to have him saying it made me feel ten times worse and made me feel at my all time low especially when he made me feel that’s why he was breaking up with me. He said he could never be with a woman who had chlamydia. Broke up with me over the phone while I was driving back home. I understand he was upset because he got it but I paid for his antibiotics and it only took about 2 weeks to go away
Is my boyfriend abusive? (please help)?
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