I've been dating my boyfriend for one year.
He's the longest relationship I've ever had & the only person I've actually only dated besides dating someone in the past that was overly controlling and manipulative, I ended the relationship.
My current boyfriend is very rude.
he's constently on the computer watching netflix, playing video games & his best friend is over every day from 8am - 1am!
I love video games, but my life is becoming very repetitive and boring because he is lazy & he admits it.
I've became very depressed and loosing interest in life, I've also gained weight.
When I first met my boyfriend he was the sweetest guy I've ever met & now he's the rudest guy I've ever met.
He yells at me anytime I ask a simple question about anything.
He yells at me if I'm trying to give him affection when he's busy playing video games (which is all day.)
We rarely have sex & once he said "you would open your legs to anyone! you are only using me for sex, fucking whore." after planning a romantic night for us.
He calls me stupid, idiot & retard whenever I tell him that I'm afraid he will hurt me someday.
He calls me a bitch everytime he's mad at me.
I've tried leaving & he says "please don't leave me, lets work on our relationship, I love you very much. etc ."
I want to break up with my current boyfriend.. but I feel trapped.
I could care less about him keeping my furniture, TV's, etc .
I don't want to leave behind my cats.
My mother wouldn't allow me to bring cats into her home.
I want to move back with my mother, because I was happier.
I don't want to move back because I'm 22 years old and I would feel childish. :(
My boyfriend is 21.
I am afraid.. He swings at me, punches doors, throws things. :(
He's punched the bed right next to my face while laying down and it scared me very much.
He's only a nice guy when we have extra money or my birthday.
- He's abusiveVote A
- Dump him!Vote B
- OverreactingVote C
Most Helpful Guy
Both A and B. He's emotionally abusive and you need to run and run like hell. He is comfortable being a lazy ass, which makes him apathetic, because his needs are taken care of, but his narcissism does not allow him to see your needs are being ignored, which should make you feel pretty much like shit.
His attempts of "working things out" is only an attempt at manipulating your kindness into keeping him in his comfort zone, so he won't have to get his ass off the computer, straighten himself up and "get back out there". But you know what? That's not your problem. This is who the man really is, and he's not going to change anytime soon. He might in 10 or 15 years, or maybe never, but is it really worth it to put up with that shit? Don't you feel you're entitled to be treated with respect? I do, and so should you.
There's no reason you should feel "trapped" and you can't worry about his feelings, because he damn sure isn't worried about yours. He's only looking out for himself and he's also an asshole, so dump him and keep him out of your life for good. Do not let him worm his way back into your life with false charm, because he'll only revert back to his shitbag form sooner than later.
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Most Helpful Girl
What good are you to the cats if you find yourself one day in the hospital with broken bones and bruises or even worse... six feet under the ground
Stop being your worse enemy, RosalieFawn, and end the madness before it ends it for you. He's a loser, abusive mentally and physically and the older he gets, the worse he will get until one day, this ticking bomb explodes to the point where you will Not... be able to make Any decisions of what is best for you.
Pack up and get away, lock, stock and barrel. When you have gotten your guns in place, Annie, don't leave any smoking guns behind and just remember... felines can be easily replaced when you get your own place but your own life is in danger right now and like a cat on a hot tin roof. Don't be an Enabler for yourself in which you keep finding lame duck excuses for staying and know deep down... you are afraid.
Good luck. xx0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE