I had been dating a guy for about 5 months. We had always gotten along really well, no fighting and if we had a disagreement, we would be able to talk through it.
One night we ended up getting into a really big fight, and it made me cry. He became very uncomfortable and just kind of acted like it wasn't happening. He told me that since his fathers suicide(almost 10 years ago), he had trouble getting close to people/dealing with emotion, and he just didn't know how to react to my crying. I told him that I knew he had trouble getting close to people becasue I noticed that he's not very affectionate with me, and that I wished he would be a bit more affectionate/open about how he feels.
We decided to take a break from each other for a bit, and then he ended up breaking things off with me over a text message. He said he can't handle dating anyone right now and didn't want to hear my voice when I was sad. He said that he just can't give me what I need and that things may be different in a few months but he can't date anyone right now.
Weve texted a few times about once every few weeks, just hi how are you and things like that, which I always initiate. I Haven't tried to talk about what happened with him because I don't want to upset him or stress him out.
I would really like to work this out. my relationships before this had been physically abusive and he was always so great with me. A week before we broke up, he started planning a vacation for us, which was his idea. I'm just wondering how I should bring up what happened and how long I should wait to do it. Thank you for reading!
One night we ended up getting into a really big fight, and it made me cry. He became very uncomfortable and just kind of acted like it wasn't happening. He told me that since his fathers suicide(almost 10 years ago), he had trouble getting close to people/dealing with emotion, and he just didn't know how to react to my crying. I told him that I knew he had trouble getting close to people becasue I noticed that he's not very affectionate with me, and that I wished he would be a bit more affectionate/open about how he feels.
We decided to take a break from each other for a bit, and then he ended up breaking things off with me over a text message. He said he can't handle dating anyone right now and didn't want to hear my voice when I was sad. He said that he just can't give me what I need and that things may be different in a few months but he can't date anyone right now.
Weve texted a few times about once every few weeks, just hi how are you and things like that, which I always initiate. I Haven't tried to talk about what happened with him because I don't want to upset him or stress him out.
I would really like to work this out. my relationships before this had been physically abusive and he was always so great with me. A week before we broke up, he started planning a vacation for us, which was his idea. I'm just wondering how I should bring up what happened and how long I should wait to do it. Thank you for reading!
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