He's compartmentalizing his life at the moment, trying to find that which he can spend his time and effort for the most gain. And his focus is on his family right now, and so are his rapidly changing priorities. That isn't to say that you aren't important, but he probably feels that by not focusing so much on you, he doing you a disservice.
Wanna fix that good intentioned but ultimately stupid plan?
Get involved in his life and stay involved. Be a friend when he needs one and remind him that you're still here for him. If you care about him, don't let him push you into the background (which is what he's currently doing). You do this long enough, ardently enough, he'll stop trying to push you away for "your benefit" and keep you in his life.
Don't be surprised, however, that in doing this, he might wind up getting down on one knee for you. One thing that guys tend to look for are the people that stand by them in difficult situations, and we tend to keep those that give a shit very, very close.
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Sounds like he was looking out for you, and felt he couldn't perform his duties as your boyfriend so he cut you loose to find someone who could.
Girl, I am somewhat in the same boat! My ex broke up with me because he was being deployed and he felt too much pressure on him and he didn't want to keep me waiting. He also said the I have too much on my plate excuse. Look point blank from what I got from all my other friends if he wants to be with you he will be with you. Call him and tell him how you feel and if he still doesn't want to be with you then you have closure. You already lost him so what's the harm in trying it out one more time.
He probably feels that he doesn't have the time or energy to devote to your relationship right now and would rather end it than strain it send have one more stress to deal with. The best thing you can do is tell him you understand and that you care about him and are there for him if he needs you. But don't push for more answers of try to pressure him into getting back together. That'll just add more stress to his life.
i feel you should try and work things out and see how it goes, he problem didn't mean it because like you said he had a lot of more important things to worry about than a relation but he shouldn't be in the situation by himself talking to nobody to just feel like everything going to be alright
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He needs your support and understanding right now, and at the moment what he's really saying is he needs a best friend. I wouldn't push the relationship thing too hard, you love him I can tell, he'll come around and he'll need your help, losing two parents is going to kill him emotionally, he's going through a tough time right now, just be there for him even if he acts like he doesn't want to see you let him know you won't give up and you love enough to stand by his side through thick and thin it's what love is about good and bad times shared together.
when my mom was going through cancer it felt like I was a single parent. she couldn't do anything on her own... even the waking part. chemo sucks the life outta ya, so a caretaker is necessary. I understand his lredictament. unless you're willing to be part of his family and live with hi at his moms. you're not longer a priority.
Try meeting him to maybe talk n understand him better.
That's a paper thin excuse for saying I'm not that into you anymore.
Its worth it. ALWAYS
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