Would you want your child to grow up like you, and why or why not?

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OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

No I made sure both my sons didn't grow up like me. I made sure our family history ended with me and my sons never saw any of it until they were adults and I was burying their grandparents and aunts. That's when my kids and my niece and nephews got the real story.

And I took risks for a long time that I would never want my kids to take. In part because I don't want them harmed. But in part because I no longer believe in what I was doing. I've seen too much. From the inside and from top to bottom. I know how things work whether I want that knowledge or not.

Joshydavid25 · Accepted Answer

Noo... I would want my kid/s to grow up much better than I am.. I would make sure they do well in school, maybe get involved with some extra curricular activities, have friends they can grow up with and just be a presence in their lives that my father never could think to be..

Account · Accepted Answer

If I had or wanted a child yes although it is not something I want right now. I think I had a really good childhood overall and in general I was very lucky.
But with a small difference, I would try to help them be more emotionally expressive and ensuring a safe ground for the child to open up to me about their emotional needs. I wouldn't want them to associate having or showing emotions as weakness.
I also wouldn't want them to carry along unnecessary guilt for things that they are unable to change.

Masie · Accepted Answer

I don't see why not. I am by no means perfect. I do think that I am generally a nice and respectful person. I work hard and motivated. I never mind helping other people. I am a good student. I don't see why any of those things would be a bad thing in my children.

I do hope that I have some one day. I also hope that I can steer them away from the flaws I do have and mistakes that I have made like any good parent would.

aceleon · Answer

no, he/she better not. the life i led doesn't go towards happiness

my growing up is with a neglectful father and your mom and dad are always fighting, what you see marriage in your first year is not happiness or love, not having much friends because you are not interested in what they are interested, moving to another city while you are 7 and getting away from all of your relatives starting a new life there, anger issues that makes you the target for teasing, even if you have friends never quit fitting in because you are still not interested in what they like and actually you hate those things because of it, at 12 moving out another city once again because while you were 9 your father got 2 vein in his necks cloged and was almost dying and now is not able to endure the worrk he currently has so you move out to another city where the job is easier starting over again only to return 1 year later because your high school is there separated from dad for 6 months having your only 5 month old dog live away from you until your dad returns because your apartment with your mom doesn't allow dogs have that said dog spend his formative years alone in a warehouse your dad only able to visit it once a month at best. you get constantly teased in your high school because your anger issues lives their peak but you are all alone to fend for yourself in an enviroment where they are thugs who runs with packs, drugs, theft, assaulting, injury and even murder is pretty common. after high school you develop ocd which by far the worst thing that happened to me only thing that was even remotely close to was using my maternal grandma 2 years ago (she was not just my grandma, she was my friend she is also my first loss and i still can't grasp it, losing someone is so weird, like my reptillian brain doesn't accept that she is gone it doesn't feel real, i see her at my dreams frequently and at almost all of them it feels like it was her death that was a dream not the dream where she is alive) aside from your ocd you generally don't really fit in to the society you live, your morals, the way you see things and look at people and relationships is too different from the common folk, you hate almost every tradition, you have no patience for anything, everyday you live makes you less patient in every sense of the word, waiting is literal torture, tolerance is both hard and philosophically pointless to you. only thing you got out of the life you had is you are very deep in this philosophy shit and it is pretty much self-harming instead of helping since did you ever see a happy philosoph?

so no, if possible i don't want my child do ever go thorugh anything similiar to me. though if possible i don't want a kid or marriage, only time i ever felt anything simi, liar to love towards a girl was when i was at 1st grade of elementary school other than that i only ever knew lust for girls not anything romantic.

Chichi90 · Answer

As someone who grow up in an inner city low income household with several siblings, I'd appreciate learning about finances and understanding how men think as far as dating is considered. At times, I feel like I mothered myself. I won't know if my daughter would be able to the same without her parents help.

ohsheeT · Answer

When i had my son I promised him he would not live or go through the things I did that dream and promise happened

He now is a fireman paramedic i couldn't be prouder he drew up to complete opposite of me and that's what I promised

emeraldsaphire · Answer

In some ways yes, in other ways no. I'd like her to be empathetic, creative, and value-driven, but I'd like to not have some negative traits. Like my tendency to panic or get overly emotional, or not me really bad at making my own decisions

NathanDavis · Answer

for the greatest part, yes... that would be nice but any future kids will have to grow up with screens and AI everywhere and that's kind of sad...

AviatorTom · Answer

My 3 kids are grown. They have some of my qualities, and some of their mother's, but they are individuals, and that's the way it should be.

slatyb · Answer

I'm happy that my child was better adjusted than me in their 20's.

sawno · Answer

Not exactly like me, my health is an ongoing battle. But minus the health issues absolutely.

exitseven · Answer

I would be happy if they grew up like me. Ironically my daughter is more like me than my sons are.

RareBreedOfMan · Answer

I would not cause I come from middle class family lot of hard times we had.

HellOnHeels0 · Answer

Possibly not exactly but to learn how i did lot of life.

kaucky1 · Answer

Oowwee already they multi dicks and gifted if this existence wasn't twisted as it seems if whoever messes with them they got it coming

SmartAss06 · Answer

I hope so. But I would love him or her to be different in their own unique ways and we figure out life's challenges and grow as a family

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't want any daughter growing up like you.

mat566 · Answer

Everybody is different so doesn't matter as long as they are good people

wkhan_87 · Answer

Yes,, because I grown up in very good condition and situation

Honeyateleven · Answer

I would very much like him/her to have my traits.. would be fun watching, studying them grow

robocop666 · Answer

no I want a daughter who is loyal to her partner.

FamilyBusiness9 · Answer

Yes it’s lot of trial and errors for me. No cause I’d move a lot my parents would flip houses.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

No. I'd want them to be happy and better than me

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes I had a good childhood

DirtyOldMan777 · Answer

Hell no. be better than me.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Sure i would. I absolutely love that

lightbulb27 · Answer

For sure!

loveyouoak · Answer

No..

askingandreplying · Answer

I would.

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