He broke up with me over this?

[RavenWing057]

Known each other for 2 years. Dated for 1 year. Most healthy relationship I’ve ever had, get along amazingly. He’s been complaining about our General Manager for about 2 months, that his work keeps piling up, & he has a health issue. Been telling & trying to get him to see a doctor for 4 wks now. But our job & life has been getting in the way for him to see one. To see a doctor around where we live is not easy.
Yesterday he was in an especially cranky mood, complained about the same things about our GM, said he’s not feeling well, tired. I told him a few times to just head home and rest, he always tries to stay so him and I could be around each other more. We are together everyday though, so attached, we enjoy working & even hanging out until 3 or 4am. He does this thing where he gets me to touch his head because he feels a fever is coming on. But he always feels normal and doesn’t actually ever get a fever. Yesterday he complained constantly, looked frustrated, felt sick. Yesterday was the first & only day I felt like I couldn’t take him complaining again. He felt that through my responses. He asked me to feel his head, I was also trying to get my work done on my laptop, I told him that he probably doesn’t feel hot but that I know it’s internal. He leaned in again for me. I felt it, but he could tell I didn’t want to at this point. We eventually argued & for some reason didn’t like that I said “you’ve been complaining for about 2 weeks”

In short, he broke up with me over a this. He basically thinks what happened there determines who I am as a person and he doesn’t want to be hurt and feel like he’s alone like he has in the past. I really hurt his feelings. I deeply apologized over &over again, I see where he’s coming from, but I was frustrated too. I asked him how he could break up with me over one day. Maybe if it happened a few times, but it was just one day. I’m not like everyone, he’s not like everyone neither.

But am I in the wrong?

[HollyK21]

I’m sure it’s not over so dry your eyes. You work together, so seeing him is inevitable. But until he comes back around, I hope you stop with the begging and self loathing because all things considered what you did wasn’t bad. A bit insensitive maybe but not worth all this fuss and certainly not a full blown breakup.


Sometimes the things we want to say just don’t come out exactly how we intended, and I think that if your man really loves and knows you then he should know your heart and that you just didn’t say what you wanted to correctly. For him to fully breakup, before giving each other some space to calm down, before having a conversation, just comes off like he already had this in mind and used your argument as a scapegoat so that you’d feel like utter shit and he’s get off like a saint. Because I’m sorry but one argument with no prior issues is not something you just breakup over a whim for. If he really loved you it would take a lot more than that.


So when he does come back around, don’t be so eager to mend the bridge that you apologize yourself to death. You’ve said your sorries and he could’ve handled this better as well. Especially after ending the whole relationship, he’d have some real apologizing to do become if you haven’t heard from him yet then I know you’re going through hell and that’s not ok.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you’re in the wrong, but I don’t fully think you’re in the right either. He was being ridiculous, but you were also a bit dismissive. It sounds like he was wanting you to be nurturing towards him, but he was going about it in an immature way. He should have communicated his needs rather than complained and interrupted your work.

[RavenWing057]

You are absolutely right about everything. We’ve talked and have admitted our faults. But he says that we will never be happy. I have always been attentive to him. It was just that one day, things got to me. I’m not an uncaring person. Is this a good reason to break up over though?

[Finchie40]

You are wrong for trying to give him another chance , the second he broke up with you is the second you should of threw in the towel and told him to Go fuck himself and move on from him. You weren’t in a relationship with a man , you were in a relationship with a little boy that treats you like you are his Mother. So the wise thing for you to do is to kick his ass to the curb unless you want to be a Mom and not a girlfriend. He clearly is a child by having you feel his head and trying to make you feel his head , you should have dumped him the second he started pouting about you not touching his head. Do yourself a favor girl and go find yourself a man not a child

[Notorious1]

It's about the level of compassion or lack of that he realizes that he probably cared more about you than you did about him.

[RavenWing057]

I have always been there for him. It was just that one time things got to me. He did express that he would never do what I did, that I shocked him. I tried apologizing over and over again. I’m not an uncaring person. I could tell he doesn’t truly want to break up, but he does at the same time. Is there anything I can do to save us? Was that really worth breaking up over?

[Notorious1]

Hopefully he will come around and understand that everyone can have a bad day and accept your apology. My question to you is why do you want to be with him if he is unable or unwilling to forgive? That's not love, because he should see the whole picture and forget this one mistake which isn't really even that bad.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the emotional rollercoaster of love! 🎢 It sounds like your tensions reached a boiling point with your boyfriend's stress, health, and work issues. You're definitely not alone in feeling frustrated; juggling your own needs while being a supportive partner can be a real challenge. It seems like this breakup might be more about how he handles stress and past wounds than about you. It’s important to have open communication and focus on understanding each other's triggers. Maybe some space can help both of you find clarity and see if this relationship has the spark to reignite. Keep your heart open and stay fabulous! 💖🌟

[Anonymous]

Your time line keeps changing.
Has he been complaining for 4 weeks or 2. If you can hang out till 3-4pm he can go to the doctors. You dismissed a partner in need, no matter if you find him ridiculous or not.

[RavenWing057]

He’s been complaining for 2 months. But I’ve only said for two weeks. Our city is low on doctors and the health system is not a good one where I am.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh now you been telling him for only 2 weeks, not 4. Keep changing shit up


Sure, no doctord available for 2 months but he can hang around till 3-4, but life is getting in the way.

[Opinion Owner]

You be funny yo.

[RavenWing057]

Thank you for your feedback! I think you need to read the post more carefully if anything. Your comment will clearly not be considered.

[GlowUpGirly5]

He doesn't like u get over it