I was really happy with a guy and we were good together and then he broke up with me out of the blue. I found out a week later it's because he found out who I have slept with in my past. I've only slept with a few guys and after I was in two abusive relationships I hooked up with two guys (different times obviously and in the space of two months, and five months before this relationship) I didn't know these guys were friends with my boyfriend. He found out through somebody else and broke up with me without an explanation until now. He's angry and thinks I'm a slut, said he's insecure about this and he can't put the thought of me with them out of his mind so he doesn't want to be with me. But it only happened when I was depressed and low after bad relationships, I'm not sure what I can do. How can I get him to trust me again?
Most Helpful Guy
It's nothing about trust. Some people don't like dating people who have had sex with their friends.4
Most Helpful Girl
It is so easy to use sex as an anti-depressant, without thinking of the consequences. This is one case that backs up my plea to girls to keep their body count down. I get quite a bit of criticism for that. People say it should not matter. Sorry, but it very often does.
What can you do? Probably not a lot. He has limits set in his mind, and you have gone past those limits. What makes it worse is that these two were friends of this guy.
Best bet, if you can, is just to keep in touch with him. See how it goes. Give him a bit of time.