My boyfriend broke up with me because he said I was too quiet. How can I get over this and do guys like shy/quiet girls?

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I'm a little reserved, and I'm bad at initiating some affection in relationships. I just wasn't used to it growing up and had some bad times, so sometimes I just stand there bc I don't know what to do and I get a little bit awkward. Def my fault but that's me sometimes.

My boyfriend broke up with me because he said I was quiet and that he was quiet too so it wasn't working. I feel like we were definitely drifting apart but couldn't he have tried?

Ever since this, I've been extremely self conscious about how reserved I am. I never noticed it before. I'm not a "shy" person; I love going out, and talking to people, and having a good time. I'm just a little quiet/reserved when it comes to meeting new people, and giving affection, and I keep to myself. I'm not "crazy" so I'm pretty conservative with touching people, being extravagant etc.

So what do guys think of girls like this? How can I improve myself so the next guy doesn't think I'm closed off or distant or whatever? I don't mean to be. I just don't know how to reach out and touch a guy, etc and I'm a little quiet. I love giving gifts, and words of affection, acts of service, talking, quality time/eye contact etc. I'm also a good texter/conversationalist. I'm just a little quiet and because I'm shy with affection means I'm closed off and not good enough?

What can I do to improve, and do any guys like personalities like mine? How can I change?

Thanks for your advice in advance!

My boyfriend broke up with me because he said I was too quiet. How can I get over this and do guys like shy/quiet girls?
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