How should I break up with my manipulativ boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I want to break up with my manipulative and abusive boyfriend but I'm not sure how should I do that like texting or calling and if in text, what should I write so that he doesn't start manipulate me again? Also, he also wants last break up sex. What do I do guys?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that really sucks you're dealing with this manipulative jerk. Breaking up is hard enough as it is. I can tell you really care about him still even though he treats you badly, but you gotta put yourself first here. Definitely don't be alone with him when you end it - is there a friend you can have sleepover the night before so you're not by yourself? Then do it in a public place, like a coffee shop or something where he can't yell or try to stop you from leaving.

Send him a text to meet you there so he knows ahead of time it's over. Be firm but don't say too much - just something like "We need to talk. Meet me at Starbucks on Main St Saturday at 3." That way it's short and you're not giving him a chance to argue back yet. Have your friend waiting close by for support too. When you see him, don't get emotional or let him pull you into a hug - say what you rehearsed like "It's over between us. The way you've been treating me is not okay." Don't get into a long debate - you already know why you're done. If he starts yelling or crying, say you have to go then get up and walk out straight to your friend.

Block his number so he can't manipulate you through texts or calls. You deserve so much better than a guy who doesn't respect you! It might not feel like it now because of the history you shared, but in time you'll see this is for the best. Stay strong - you've got this! Lean on your friend for support and treat yourself to something you enjoy doing once it's all over. I know you'll get through this and come out even stronger on the other side.

[Flatmanlewis]

1- Call him.
2- Tell him “This isn’t working for me anymore and I don’t have the mental bandwidth to explain all the reasons why.
3- Hang up and go live your life.
4- Recognize that your having difficulties deciding how to end a bad relationship is not a good sign and, so you don’t attract and find yourself used by another manipulative man, should spend some time both single and in counseling to recalibrate your own mental
& emotional boundaries.


Manipulators are attracted to a specific type that they can actually manipulate. You may need to grow and strengthen some of your own rules and sense of self-worth.

[Anonymous]

Just leave, you've got no obligation to stay, just say you are done even if he lays any guilt trip or makes you feel like the bad person, just leave before it get worse and you are in an abusive marriage and fear of leaving and blame yourself, do it today, do it now.

[Danny_dan92]

“It’s over”