My boyfriend broke up with me because of his parents disapproval. Is this worth saving?

Hello all.. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. I’ve known him for almost a year and honestly, he is the best boyfriend over ever had. I’m not exaggerating. He treats me with love, respect and kindness. After breaking up with my abusive boyfriend a year ago, I thought I’d never find a good guy and I found him surprisingly. I have been incredibly happy since we got together.

Well, my whole world came crashing down on me.. My boyfriend is Indian and his parents are traditional Indians from India. My boyfriend is very American and he’s Catholic, something his parents took years to accept, but he still has traditions to be apart of..

Last night, my boyfriend finally told his parents he had a girlfriend. And according to him, they took it very badly. They told him he needed to focus on finishing college and being someone before having a girlfriend. They also mentioned that me not being Indian would cause culture issues. He said he spent all day trying to change their minds, but that they do not approve of his relationship with me.

He basically told me we had to break up.. I was in utter disbelief. I have not been liked due to my race, but It nothing to this magnitude. I spent all last night trying to talk to my boyfriend but he said he felt it was hopeless because his parents have a certain way of thinking and they are paying his way through college and he doesn’t want to go against them. He said I deserved to be with someone who didn’t have these issues and be with someone who’s family would accept me without question. He said he loved me and wanted to be friends, but I felt like I was drowning when he said this all this.

In my mind, I can’t just give up and let this go. I feel like I have to fight for my relationship. He said we can still hang out and talk but that we cannot do anything romantic as he felt like he would be lying to them and being unfair to me.

Does this sound hopeless? Should I try talking to his parents? Should I try to fight for him?
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I really appreciate all the advice, I didn’t think so many people would respond!

We decided to fight for our relationship. However, if it continues to be an issue and his parents don’t eventually come around to the point he feels he has no other choice, I won’t fight for it anymore. But I love him beyond belief, he’s the best boyfriend I have ever had and I couldn’t just let him go.
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