My boyfriend broke up with me because of his parents disapproval. Is this worth saving? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2018-04-09T16:03:35Z

Hello all.. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. I’ve known him for almost a year and honestly, he is the best boyfriend over ever had. I’m not exaggerating. He treats me with love, respect and kindness. After breaking up with my abusive boyfriend a year ago, I thought I’d never find a good guy and I found him surprisingly. I have been incredibly happy since we got together. Well, my whole world came crashing down on me.. My boyfriend is Indian and his parents are traditional Indians from India. My boyfriend is very American and he’s Catholic, something his parents took years to accept, but he still has traditions to be apart of.. Last night, my boyfriend finally told his parents he had a girlfriend. And according to him, they took it very badly. They told him he needed to focus on finishing college and being someone before having a girlfriend. They also mentioned that me not being Indian would cause culture issues. He said he spent all day trying to change their minds, but that they do not approve of his relationship with me. He basically told me we had to break up.. I was in utter disbelief. I have not been liked due to my race, but It nothing to this magnitude. I spent all last night trying to talk to my boyfriend but he said he felt it was hopeless because his parents have a certain way of thinking and they are paying his way through college and he doesn’t want to go against them. He said I deserved to be with someone who didn’t have these issues and be with someone who’s family would accept me without question. He said he loved me and wanted to be friends, but I felt like I was drowning when he said this all this. In my mind, I can’t just give up and let this go. I feel like I have to fight for my relationship. He said we can still hang out and talk but that we cannot do anything romantic as he felt like he would be lying to them and being unfair to me. Does this sound hopeless? Should I try talking to his parents? Should I try to fight for him?

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rahul_24 Follow
Explorer Age: 32

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I broke with my ex did to the same reason. She said in the end she'll listen to her family

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- Sabretooth
  
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  She'll NEVER be happy
  
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- rahul_24
  
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  That's her decision. I supported her in every way I could but she made her mind. Nothing I can do
  
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- Sabretooth
  
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  point still stands
  
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- rahul_24
  
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  Ahh fair enough, was'nt arguing against it. Dunno if she will, she has admirers. She'll be fine I think
  
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- Sabretooth
  
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  how many truly lover her?
  
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- rahul_24
  
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  Trust me I did everything, it had many other elements. It also was LDR
  
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- Sabretooth
  
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  Ldr isn't enough of a reason
  
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- rahul_24
  
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  Were you in ldr?
  
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- Sabretooth
  
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  no, but i know these are things that can happen in a relation-which is where communication comes in.
  
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- rahul_24
  
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  I kno, I know but the other person also must be cooperative plus she was seeing someone else so I decided that's it
  
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- Sabretooth
  
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  Damn-I'm sorry
  
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- rahul_24
  
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  Too many elements involved, it was inevitable
  
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LuWe22 Follow
Guru Age: 28

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He choose his family over you. Was is fine. I don't think you can save that

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letjtasteit Follow
Xper 3 Age: 42

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Is it? He shouldn't have listen to his family if he felt the same as you

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JOHNDOE83 Follow
Xper 2 Age: 40

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His not the only one... My girlfriend did the same to me.. so don't feel bad

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Moonchild714 Follow
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What's to save, he broke up with you?

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- Moonchild714
  
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  He chose to listen and obey his parents. Do you want to risk them cutting him off and not paying for his education and other expenses? That's usually what strict traditional minded parents do with their children who disobey them. He made his decision, you need to honor and tell him if being just friends would be too difficult. He knew his parents weren't going to approve of you, this isn't new information to him.
  
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Anonymous
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I would say he is using his parents as a excuse Just to brake up with you.

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strangegirl012 Follow
Xper 3 Age: 27

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If he really loves u he won t leave u

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Ronin82 Follow
Xper 5 Age: 44

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His parents are absolutely correct

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- Asker
  
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  Why are they correct?
  
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- Ronin82
  
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  -Because you are an outsider.
  -kids that grow up like this are taught to value the parents.
  -all the middle/upper middle class Indians i grew up around are very caste minded. To them you might be street shitter caste
  
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- Ronin82
  
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  *at least if they are the TRAD Indian types I grew up around.
  
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Sabretooth Follow
Guru Age: 33

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Tell him to really consider what he's doing

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- Sabretooth
  
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  You're welcome and good luck? Eventually, he might need to make a choice between you or them-one he'd better think REALLY carefully about
  
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JakeCabrera Follow
Xper 2 Age: 41

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I would move on to someone new.

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fu123444555666777 Follow
Xper 3 Age: 32

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Are u sure

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