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My guy has two women that want him, they are both from his past and both want to be with him. He's told them he's in a relationship yet they both continue to flirt with him and one even tried to lay a guilt trip on him about not talking to her since we got together. When it comes up (and it does frequently) I get anxious and it always starts a long discussion about how insecure I am and how I don't have anything to worry about and always makes remarks about how I talk to people of the opposite sex. The difference is, and I have stated, none of them have said they want to have my baby or that they love me and don't want my boyfriend to tell me they are talking to him.. He says that they both make him uncomfortable but they are both old friends he doesn't want to lose. He does have a big heart and thinks of the latter one as a baby sister that he used to watch over, he'd tried to have a relationship with her in the past but she chose someone else.

I'm so frustrated! the first woman aborted his child without even telling him she was pregnant over 10 years ago and the other one is married with kids yet texted him last night and said it upset her that he let me read her texts. I'm too old to be getting jealous over these women but I still feel it come over me, I don't think he handles them properly at all and he won't take my advice on what to say but instead insists on handling things his way. I feel like he is encouraging them but he doesn't and says I don't know them like he does. I love him and we are committed to each other, I know I have nothing to worry about with him. He's never cheated on anyone and is extremely loyal. I just find it HIGHLY disrespectful that these ladies won't get it through their head what is appropriate and what is not and moreso with him for putting me in this position in the first place by not being more clear with them. Should I just let it go or should I dig my heels in? I'm scared of pushing him away but this is an ongoing issue I don't know if I can really deal with much longer without getting in a major argument and ultimatums being made, which he has stated several times he wouldn't tolerate from me.

I've been dating my boyfriend for one year.
He's the longest relationship I've ever had & the only person I've actually only dated besides dating someone in the past that was overly controlling and manipulative, I ended the relationship.

My current boyfriend is very rude.
he's constently on the computer watching netflix, playing video games & his best friend is over every day from 8am - 1am!
I love video games, but my life is becoming very repetitive and boring because he is lazy & he admits it.

I've became very depressed and loosing interest in life, I've also gained weight.

When I first met my boyfriend he was the sweetest guy I've ever met & now he's the rudest guy I've ever met.

He yells at me anytime I ask a simple question about anything.

He yells at me if I'm trying to give him affection when he's busy playing video games (which is all day.)

We rarely have sex & once he said "you would open your legs to anyone! you are only using me for sex, fucking whore." after planning a romantic night for us.

He calls me stupid, idiot & retard whenever I tell him that I'm afraid he will hurt me someday.

He calls me a bitch everytime he's mad at me.

I've tried leaving & he says "please don't leave me, lets work on our relationship, I love you very much. etc ."

I want to break up with my current boyfriend.. but I feel trapped.

I could care less about him keeping my furniture, TV's, etc .

I don't want to leave behind my cats.
My mother wouldn't allow me to bring cats into her home.

I want to move back with my mother, because I was happier.

I don't want to move back because I'm 22 years old and I would feel childish. :(

My boyfriend is 21.

I am afraid.. He swings at me, punches doors, throws things. :(

He's punched the bed right next to my face while laying down and it scared me very much.

He's only a nice guy when we have extra money or my birthday.

Please help.