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This girl plays the hot-and-cold game to an extent I've never seen. We've been dating over a month, are sleeping together, and though we have not yet discussed exclusivity, it felt as recently as last week that might be where this is going.

When we're together, she exudes RED HOT interest. When I first made my move, she jumped on top of me and initiated sex. She grabs my arm or hand while walking, squeezing lovingly tight. She rubs my leg while sitting. She caresses my back. She suggests things we should do together. She calls me pet names like "love" or "honey". She's joked about me making a great husband. And she acts incredibly self conscious and vulnerable around me, apologizing about her looks or weight (even though she has absolutely NO reason to feel that way; she's damn sexy). But...

When we're not together she sometimes goes ICE COLD and maddeningly non-responsive. A recent "What are you up to this weekend?" took her all bloody day to respond to. And even then, I got more or less a non-responsive deferral to chat later.

It is possible there is another guy. We met on an app; I paused my account recently (which I wish I hadn't because I didn't know it notifies her of that...) due to work blowing up and wanting to focus on potentially moving this forward. She's still on it and who knows how active she's been.

Right now the ball is in her court. And while I'm tempted to just call her, I feel that is a bad move. I may be smitten, but she should treat me fairly and with respect. She can't just blow me off and expect me to chase. If she misses me, she knows what to do. My instinct is to not contact her until she reaches out. If I don't hear from her for 2-3 days, perhaps I can be more direct. We are past the stage where ghosting is acceptable.

Any thoughts on her motivations here, and what to do?

I have been seeing a girl for about 5 weeks now. We've been out several times and are sleeping together. And while I'm insanely picky (I can't overstate this), she knocked my socks off from day one. I'm getting to the point where I don't really feel like investing time in other women (which I don't really have anyway since I work so many hours).

The signs from her are mostly promising. She initiates LOTS of physical contact (taking my arm, grabbing my hand, rubbing my leg). When we spend the night she barely lets me an inch away from her, and will squeeze my hand or body as if she were dangling off a cliff. She's started offering to pay for things (e. g., "let me take you to dinner"), she's begun proposing plans instead of just waiting for me to do so (during our date: "what are you doing tomorrow?"), and she recently even suggested a mid-week sex romp (lol). So it's clear that she's into me too, BUT...

... it also would appear she's still on the apps (She received a notification while we were on her couch and her phone was right in my view. I wasn't TRYING to see it!). She also hasn't progressed to asking me much about personal things going on in my life yet. And even though we were together a few days ago and she was meeting friends for drinks later, it was clear I wasn't invited.

That said, I'm leaning toward having "the talk" in the next week or so but have apprehensions about it being 'too soon.' Some say MINIMUM of 3 months. Others seem to think one month is plenty. I've done both extremes (from 2 weeks to several months) and feel like 5-8 weeks is probably the sweet spot.

Thoughts on how to approach the subject and timing?