Why does he never want to kiss me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend never wants to kiss me unless it is during sex and it annoys me, why is it like that? When I try to initiate it he pulls away from me.

Other than that he does touch me (cuddles with me on the couch, hugs, holding hans, give me a light spank on the butt etc) and initiate sex.

I don’t smell, my hygiene is good. Also I am not clingy. The periods I tried to stop initiate kissing he did nothing.

[VIVANT]

I think he either just doesn’t like kissing - some people don’t- or he doesn’t mind it but Durant want to get turned on by it.

Have you discussed it with him?

He may just not like kissing.

[Asker]

I haven’t discussed it with him. I feel shy to say it.

[VIVANT]

I do understand that it is very difficult

BIT usually discussing hard things brings you closer even though it feels really hard at first..

then it gets easier! 😀

[DebraHeart]

No desire to kiss unless it will lead to sex... makes me think he has no emotional feelings for you... if it doesn't involve sex...

[Asker]

Yes but i think, he still wants to do other things with me and spends most of his freetime
With me and we have been together for a while, so I don’t think that is 100% it either?

[DebraHeart]

maybe he knows if he kisses you he will always want sex, so he avoids it... I don't know just seems he'd want to... maybe ask him why.

[bklynbadboy1]

He might be like me I dont mind it but kissing is a major turn on for me so I try not to do it unless I'm having sex

[Asker]

Thank you, he is saying the same, but I wasn’t sure. Sometimes I just miss kissing, cuddling, touching without leading to sex or as foreplay, there is almost none.

[bklynbadboy1]

See nothing to worry about your just a major turn on for him and thanks for the MHO

[Anonymous]

Probably just isn’t someone that does it or he doesn’t want to get turned on yet if he does it

[Asker]

I just thiught everybody liked kissing, the most i get is. a grandma peck.

[Opinion Owner]

I happen to like kissing at spontaneous times

[Just_a_human]

@Asker why would you think everybody liked kissing?

[Ephemera1]

Kissing does nothing for us. What benefit do I get?

^ Is what I was writing until I realized you probably meant kissing in general not on the lips. Yeah I think a kiss here and there to show some affection wouldn't hurt him. Ask him what's up but definitely do not try to force him to kiss you

[Massageman]

" Most people love kissing. In fact; kissing is an accepted and a standard form of greeting someone in some cultures and even showing one’s love. Some people, however, develop an irrational fear of this act of kissing. While this phobia might not interfere with one’s day to day life, it can certainly harm one’s personal and social relationships or interactions. Often; Philematophobia is associated with other phobias such as the fear of intimacy, fear of sexual intercourse or the fear of germs etc. The phobic could even be suffering from other anxiety disorders such as Agoraphobia or the fear of failing to escape. "

from www.fearof.net

[Vesta]

LOL, you mention you're not clingy but the picture you included is literally of a girl HOLDING ON TO A MAN

[Asker]

The picture is for fun😃

[Vesta]

You see the irony though, right?

[Asker]

Yes that’s the reason I put it there😝

[Vesta]

But then how is it that you say you're not clingy but then you have a picture of a woman LITERALLY clinging to a man. I don't think it's "just for fun"

[Asker]

Why should I want to picture myself as clingy? There is nothing attractive about thhe picture. I put it there for fun. :-)

[Vesta]

You're useless here

[Asker]

So stop explaining to me what you think I meant or how you think I am when you don’t know me and when you aren’t inside my mind.

I described it as it was, my situation, I wanted to mention I am not clingy. I put the picture, just to get more attention to my question, and because at first it might sound as if I am so clingy girl who just wants to kiss and cuddle 24/7 and nothing else whilst my partner just wants to run away. Which literally is going on on the picture. Which looks fun, but tragic haha. So I put it there for attention. You clicked. I elaborated on my post. Want to mention I am not clingy, so you don’t just take the pic.

[OrangeBoy2]

Does he hate microbes in general? he's he always cleaning himself?

[Asker]

No he isn’t.

[SirRexington]

I don't know to be honest. Maybe he isn't the biggest fan of kissing on the lips. I'm not. Maybe it's something he thinks is left better to be taken care of in private or in a more intimate setting.

[msfuntastic]

I'm not sure, but you've just made question why I don't own a night gown.

[Liam_Hayden]

Maybe he grew up in a family that never showed affection.

[Giggletr0n]

Some people just don't like kissing

[DWD94]

He's probably emotionally unavailable.