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We have been together for 1.5 years. No kids/not married. Still live with our parents. I'm 19 she's 18. It's only been about 3 months but it's starting to get to me. She got her first job in February (which is around when this began). Since then, she puts no effort into our kisses, cuddling, She never wants to have sex anymore, etc... We have had sex only 2 or 3 times the last 3 months. We used to have sex 5+ times a week.

Everytime I try to initiate sex, she either subtly turns me down or says she's too tired. I hate sounding needy but I'm starting to get sexually frustrated. Like I said before, it's her first job (part time) so she might not be used to the work thing yet, but I work a full time construction job and make almost 3x the hours she makes, I'm tired AF when I get home but I ALWAYS make time for her (even if she doesn't seem to appreciate it anymore). I hate saying this but I have been considering letting her go. I don't want to break up because of sex but I just don't feel wanted.

The only thing that's holding me back is that I love her with all my heart. She says she does too. But it doesn't feel like it. I have been fighting for us so hard but she seem to be not attracted to me. Maybe she loves me but isn't attracted to me? I don't know but it really hurts me

Say what you want but I personally think if you're in a serious relationship, one of your responsibilities is staying attractive for your partner, especially if your married, and before you ignorantly skip the rest of this to write a hate comment I'll tell you why I think this, so hear me out. I think in a relationship, staying attractive to your partner is just as important as things like flirting, communicating and letting your partner know how you feel. I see way too many times where people would get married and think it's a reason to let themselves go, they think "Now that I'm married, I don't have to care about my looks because who do I have to impress?", well what about your Wife/Husband? Then they wonder why doesn't my Husband have sex with me anymore? Or why does my Wife watch porn instead of having sex with me? And in the worst cases they find out that their spouse has been having affairs, which I'm totally against, the #1 responsibility in a serious relationship is being loyal. Also, don't get me wrong either, this needs to work both ways, if your a slop yourself sitting on the couch watching Game of Thrones chowing down a bag of chips and you tell your partner to lose weight for you, they're eating salad while your pigging down McDonald's in front of them and you make them go to the gym alone of make them blow the dust off the old treadmill in the guest room, then you're even worst, and you need to be with your partner on this journey even if you're not fat yourself. I heard a man say "If a woman can be married for 10 years and still fit in her wedding dress, then her husband is one lucky son of a bitch", but granted this was some random guy I overheard and I couldn't find the quote on the internet so you can take that with a grain of salt, I don't know any quotes with the genders reversed but they'res probably one out there. One more thing, this does apply to both men and women.