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So you really like someone but avoid them or keep your feelings carefully hid. You do this not bc you are worried they will reject you but bc you do not like admitting you have tender feelings / or sexual or both or whatever it is. So even if they tell you they like you , you may not be willing to respond honestly bc it is so humiliating for you to lower yourself to weakness— especially in the case of you are in love?

( I’m not sayjng love is weal, just that it might feel that way when in it)

I've never worried much about rejection, but I have this horrible habit of fighting what feelings I do have until they are unrecognizable to me... as alone if proof to myself I’m strong enough to not be drawn in. I do not hear a lot of people talk this at but I can’t imagine I’m the only one. I do hear people say they just don’t care as appear to not wanting to, BUT that’s how I talk on the outside so I wonder if any of those people who don’t care secretly do but don’t want to admit it bc it feels stronger to deny it?

Since no one knows anyone on here I thought maybe I’d get real answers in case anyone is like me.

its also starting to bother me. It never did before or I didn’t know it did. I used to be proud to shut my feelings down but now I’m learning I don’t have such control over it and isl how to just be real even if I want to. It just feels like I’m doing something really pathetic just to be Henest. Makes things very confusing when I genuinely like someone. I’ve been trying for years to come clean to the same Person and I just can’t imagine doing it without despising myself. I spent so many years being “strong” just to give in...

im primarily talking about Emotional attachment not sex. I don’t feel any embarrassment over sexual attraction , though I’ve never had sex it’s not bc I’m ashamed.

What if u meet a good man who might be the right husband for you, but his appearance is not appealing AT ALL.
i have been through the situation when I'VE never been attracted to them physically (serious men who want to marry me) they like me n found me ATTRACTIVE. Unfortunately, the mutual attraction doesn't exist. It is always the one-sided attraction.

How can I marry a man who is good but not ATTRACTIVE?
How can I enjoy having sex with him?
How can I enjoy hugging, touching, kissing him?
And y'all know how important the sexual life is in a married couple!
I can't even imagine myself losing my virginity by a man who does not attract me?

My mom is against this. She says that sex is not that important (in marriage) so you don't have to care about his appearance since he's a good man that can protect and respect you n his kids. My mon n I always argue on this :/
Attraction is not EVERY THING there're more important things that should be taken into consideration when it comes to marriage. But ATTRACTION plays a BIIIIIG role too so that the marriage can be successful

What do you think guys have you ever been into this situation before?
have you ever got married to someone you were not physically attracted to, but then attracted you after marriage?